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She talked with him anyway. I told her I didn't want to know. She proceeded to tell me anyway and I had to stop her. The little I heard was interesting, but made no sense, per fog babble.
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Just persist. I was walking out of my parents house abruptly for six months before my dad caught on.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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So I got a text from OW because I had sent her dad a letter. It was all about how I caused the affair, etc.
Then my IM gave me a warning that my WH was saying that he was coming home because my daughter needed a dad in the house, but would not meet my conditions.
It seems like the exposure worked.
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So I got a text from OW because I had sent her dad a letter. It was all about how I caused the affair, etc.
Then my IM gave me a warning that my WH was saying that he was coming home because my daughter needed a dad in the house, but would not meet my conditions.
It seems like the exposure worked. Yup!! They are probably fighting huge fights!! Good job!!
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Um.
Don't get excited.
Prepare to hold firm to not allowing WH to run the show.
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Um.
Don't get excited.
Prepare to hold firm to not allowing WH to run the show. True that. Their fights aren't anything until there's NC. Your WH may also think he can gaslight you to take the heat off them. Don't break plan B. He needs to do what you've given him in your plan B letter and ends the affair.
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No they are still in 'let's fight with Piglet not each other' mode. Exposure is causing trouble and they need you back as scapegoat.
You've changed your phone number right? Do so if not and make sure WH doesn't get in and can't break in.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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If the POSOW can text you, then you need to change your number now.
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He has keys doesn't he? If he's coming home your disabled mother won't be able to stop him. Get some deadbolts in place or something.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
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Yeah, He came in last night. I locked myself in the bedroom with my daughter. He almost broke the door down before leaving. He just kept saying, "we are going to fix this! We are going to fix this!" My mom kept saying, "if you do the things she asked on the list, she will talk to you about coming back. You cannot come back without making her feel safe," which I think was perfect.
I can get a strong inner chain lock and have the lock rekeyed AGAIN.
I blocked her phone number after I got the text with the new iOS operating system, but will change my number as well.
But there is a mix of blame Piglet and rift between them. The letter to her dad sent her over the edge. My note to his boss to not let him sleep in the gym because it enables his affair also made him really mad (because the boss kicked him out).
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Does anyone ever file restraining orders in plan B?
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Does anyone ever file restraining orders in plan B? Yes, and domestic abuse if he actually keep kicked a door open in a threatening manner, not just to get in because he forgot his keys. LTL
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He didn't kick the door down. He used keys.
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He got violent. Kicked down a door and pushed me against a wall. So this is definitely over now. I filed a police report and am pressing charges
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Yeah, He came in last night. I locked myself in the bedroom with my daughter. He almost broke the door down before leaving. He just kept saying, "we are going to fix this! We are going to fix this!" My mom kept saying, "if you do the things she asked on the list, she will talk to you about coming back. You cannot come back without making her feel safe," which I think was perfect.
I can get a strong inner chain lock and have the lock rekeyed AGAIN.
I blocked her phone number after I got the text with the new iOS operating system, but will change my number as well.
But there is a mix of blame Piglet and rift between them. The letter to her dad sent her over the edge. My note to his boss to not let him sleep in the gym because it enables his affair also made him really mad (because the boss kicked him out). He's in meltdown mode and it looks like his sweet affair partner is finding him to be too much trouble to keep as a boyfriend!
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He got violent. Kicked down a door and pushed me against a wall. So this is definitely over now. I filed a police report and am pressing charges When did this happen?
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A couple of hours ago. My mom let him in when dropping off my daughter. I told her under no uncertain circumstances not to. I was locked in the bedroom and he figured that out. He was mad that my IM was not sending me all his messages. He was mad that I am trying to move with my daughter and thaf I will not talk to him.
I will not tolerate his abuse any longer. He is just transferring his emotional abuse to physical abuse now.
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He got violent. Kicked down a door and pushed me against a wall. So this is definitely over now. I filed a police report and am pressing charges Are you okay? Just concentrate on taking care of yourself and stay protected. We usually advise Husbands to carry a VAR, Voice Activated Recorder, but I feel you should just in case he makes ANY attempt at contacting you. Yes, he IS in meltdown mode. His affair probably fell apart and you took assertive steps to isolate yourself from his craziness, but just worry about protecting yourself please. How is your Mother? Was she around when this occurred? LTL
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He got violent. Kicked down a door and pushed me against a wall. So this is definitely over now. I filed a police report and am pressing charges I'm sorry he did this, but good job for calling the police. Major issues in affair land. Please be careful. Do you have a VAR on you when he comes around? Your mom should also have one on her.
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Piglet,
I know you already know this, but I am going to re-emphasize--Document, document, document!!
Date, times, events, witnesses, leading up to and the sequence of events, while it's fresh in your mind. This is just incase you need to recall circumstances for trial or defense. And it is for your recall only,, not for court evidence. I know you think you'll remember but, believe me, as time passes and other events occur, you'll forget important details.
Play it safe. Document!
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