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No day job as of yet. I can say that we are spending 20+ hours of undivided attention together. Though I have looked for a day job, but no luck yet. I am praying about that subject too.
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BW of Om#1 texted me and said her H came clean. I feel like I done good. I feel like maybe it will be easier for me to put it behind me now.
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BW of Om#1 texted me and said her H came clean. I feel like I done good. I feel like maybe it will be easier for me to put it behind me now. Good. Did you tell her about MB? Send her here.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Yes, I told her about MB multiple times! I all but begged her to post here.
I don't know if she will come here or not, my W told me that her H (OM#1) seems to think that she had a BF while she was married to her H.
I don't know if this was true.
Question:
Okay OM# 1 and OM# 3 have been exposed to their wives.
OM # 2 is a little more tricky. He is not married and has or had no GF that my W knows of.
Should I bother to try to confront OM #2 at all?
As best I can, my W is not in an affair.
I'm still using VARs just for my own peace of mind.
Part of me would like to have words with this low life.
Granted, that might lead to something undesirable.
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Yes, I told her about MB multiple times! I all but begged her to post here.
I don't know if she will come here or not, my W told me that her H (OM#1) seems to think that she had a BF while she was married to her H.
I don't know if this was true.
Question:
Okay OM# 1 and OM# 3 have been exposed to their wives.
OM # 2 is a little more tricky. He is not married and has or had no GF that my W knows of.
Should I bother to try to confront OM #2 at all?
As best I can, my W is not in an affair.
I'm still using VARs just for my own peace of mind.
Part of me would like to have words with this low life.
Granted, that might lead to something undesirable. What about his parents and/or siblings or family? Can you expose to them?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Brainhurts,
I suppose I could expose to parents such, but what good would that do?
The affair is long dead.
Also, there is another problem concerning OM#2.
My W won't tell me his last name. She swears she for got it, and she gets angry at me for asking.
(We had some fights when I was dead set on exposing OM #1.)
I'm not sure if I want to have another fight like that again.
I know my W is living to me about OM#2 last name, but is it worth opening those wounds? (It is mentally taxing for me too)
I do feel better now that OM#1 and 3 are exposed, and I had some angry words with OM#1. (OM #3 would never talk to me in any shape or form)
So my question is,
Is it worth a big fight to pull his last name from my wife?
The POS has no W of GF, I would feel awkward trying to expose to his parents, I meanhow do I open a conversation like that? And how do I answer if they ask me why I'm telling them?
Again, I want to thank everyone for their help. I'm sorry I'm not getting all the results so fast. (But I feel okay about the way things sit now)
Last edited by garak77; 11/08/14 06:05 PM.
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