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[ just don't want to make him delete it to later find out he opened another cause he really didn't want to delete it... If he doesn't want to take extraordinary precautions to protect you from another affair, then you have bigger problems here. We don't CARE if he doesn't want to delete it.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Oh dear. When posters can't be bothered to take the step of closing FB or changing phone numbers or email addresses, that's a HUGE red flag that the harder stuff isn't going to happen.
Not to mention, those types of loopholes being left open tend to lead to a persistently foggy WS.
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If I was a single parent I would be living close to my family and therefore the child care situation would be non existent. How about moving close to your family? That sounds like it could be a very good option: It gets you away from OW and triggers and also gives you babysitters so that you can get your UA time in. Win/win!
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If I was a single parent I would be living close to my family and therefore the child care situation would be non existent. How about moving close to your family? That sounds like it could be a very good option: It gets you away from OW and triggers and also gives you babysitters so that you can get your UA time in. Win/win! I just read thru the entire thread again and listened to most of your radio call....and I hear Dr Harley suggested the same thing - he was worried your H would be persistently depressed being triggered in that area and that a move would be necessary in order to recover. Plus you would have your family to help you with your kids in order to get the UA time...
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One other thing stood out to me while reading through your thread. You persistently told posters that the affair was OVER, when it was not. That was a clear THEME here.
I would not assume because the OW's BH is watching from his end that it is over. For sure it may make things very difficult but you still need to be watching. I understand he uses a van once he gets to the worksite but I would still set up the VAR in his car and be watching like a hawk.
Most of all, I would start making plans to move.
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