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How can you continue to support the affair financially? This is a big no no.
Cut off the phone, insurance, etc., sure she will be hopping mad.
A wayward in the fog/affair will never honor any commitments to you, that is not how they think. She views you as an annoyance.
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How can you continue to support the affair financially? This is a big no no.
Cut off the phone, insurance, etc., sure she will be hopping mad.
A wayward in the fog/affair will never honor any commitments to you, that is not how they think. She views you as an annoyance. Agree. In SAA, Sue moved in with OM and so Dr. Harley had Jon go into Plan B and not support her financially.
FWW/BW (me)
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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She call me little while ago, and was on her way to bring her car over so our sons could use it for work. Since she lives and works with OM, she doesn't use it. She was sweet as pie on the phone and while she was here. Then my daughter took her back.
I wonder if me putting my foot down got her attention? Have you read the story of Jon and Sue in SAA? Sue also moved in with OM. Have you contacted OM's parents yet? Yes, didn't get far, OM's father has had a stroke, and is barely coherent, mother has Alzheimer.
BS (me) 52
WW 47
M 30 years
D Day 10/10/14
WW left 11/05/14
Exposed 11/5/14 after she left
Currently working Plan A
4 adult kids 22,23,24,&27
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How can you continue to support the affair financially? This is a big no no.
Cut off the phone, insurance, etc., sure she will be hopping mad.
A wayward in the fog/affair will never honor any commitments to you, that is not how they think. She views you as an annoyance. I have came to that. That is why I put a stop to it all when she refused to meet me as promised.
BS (me) 52
WW 47
M 30 years
D Day 10/10/14
WW left 11/05/14
Exposed 11/5/14 after she left
Currently working Plan A
4 adult kids 22,23,24,&27
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She call me little while ago, and was on her way to bring her car over so our sons could use it for work. Since she lives and works with OM, she doesn't use it. She was sweet as pie on the phone and while she was here. Then my daughter took her back.
I wonder if me putting my foot down got her attention? Being your WW is working and living with the OM twenty-four seven you will not be able to plan A her. Better for you to go plan B. Time to go NC with your WW. I've only been doing plan A for a month. Dr Harley recommends at least six months. Conversations with her have just began to lighten up, and be pleasant. Shouldn't I keep that up?
BS (me) 52
WW 47
M 30 years
D Day 10/10/14
WW left 11/05/14
Exposed 11/5/14 after she left
Currently working Plan A
4 adult kids 22,23,24,&27
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Sir,
I just read through your thread.
The first thing you need to do is read Exposure 101 thread. (It is in MelodyLane signature on second or third post on this thread).
After you have read the Exposure 101 thread, some back here.
Do not focus on anything else until you have completed this important task.
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Sir,
I just read through your thread.
The first thing you need to do is read Exposure 101 thread. (It is in MelodyLane signature on second or third post on this thread).
After you have read the Exposure 101 thread, some back here.
Do not focus on anything else until you have completed this important task. I have read it, and I have read SAA by Dr. Harley. Everyone who knows us, knows about it, ( we have a very large family), and everyone on his side knows. They were both blasted on facebook from both sides. by my son, and the OM's BW. I have told everyone I know that didn't know already.
BS (me) 52
WW 47
M 30 years
D Day 10/10/14
WW left 11/05/14
Exposed 11/5/14 after she left
Currently working Plan A
4 adult kids 22,23,24,&27
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