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And I would also say that most of the people coming to MB are dealing with relationship affairs (Melody says 99%) rather than ONS and trailer trash. So the success stories here demonstrate that relationship affairs do not necessarily spell the end of the marriage. The hard ones to solve are the 1% who are trolling for action. They typically aren't in the least bit serious about their marriage. In most cases, those betrayed spouses are better off getting divorced.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Let me put this another way. The sex only affairs are the EASIEST to get over, but there is usually a reluctance to make the necessary radical changes. HOWEVER, the type of spouse who has those affairs is usually someone who is a serial cheater who is out trolling for action. THAT aspect makes it very difficult and the BS is usually better off leaving the marriage.
Easy to get over the affair, almost impossible to get such a person to change his lifestyle.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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The hard ones to solve are the 1% who are trolling for action. They typically aren't in the least bit serious about their marriage. In most cases, those betrayed spouses are better off getting divorced. I agree.
Remarried 7/16
Thanks MB!
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She lost custody of her children (largely due to abandonment), secure housing, friends, family members and self respect to pursue an affair with a convicted felon that has been divorced three times! That is sad Jedi, I didn't realize that about the OM in your situation. Sounds about like the judgement call my wife has made at the moment.
Happily remarried to wonderful woman who I found using the guidelines in "Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders" 2 baby boys, working on #3 and couldn't ask for anything more. When my ex's affair happened: BH 28, Ex-WW:29 Married: 7 years Together: 8 years D-day: 10/5/2014 D filed: 1/22/2015 D Final: 6/4/2015 My story
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