EJH:
Thank your lucky stars that you found this site. This is the place where you and your wife can get these issues resolved, and where you can build a head-over-heels-in-love marriage. That is unlike any other website or forum out there. And it is a huge gift you can give your children, modeling for them a wonderful marriage.

You may not have initially liked the manner of the messages here; the most effective posters don't sugar-coat things. But if you follow through, listen, and complete the tasks the veteran posters outline (which ALL follow Dr. Harley's plan), you will get what you and your wife want. And, I predict, when you re-read your thread later on, you will cringe just a little bit that you wasted valuable time and energy defending your position, instead of getting down to work.

You see, veteran posters here HAVE been in your position. Maybe not the exact minute details, but overall, in the state of their marriages. And they have used the MB program to overcome.

So, congratulations on getting yourself here. Next step, please read the Basic Concepts. Pay closest attention to the Love Busters at this time. And post any questions you have about these concepts and their implementation.