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My husband left me and I found out he had been in contact with an old girlfriend. He did read His Needs, Her Needs first. He said I was not meeting his needs by affirming him. He filed for divorce and said he was not willing to work on our marriage because his love bank was empty in regard to me....basically the blame game. Now he is rotating between this girl and 2 other women. He says they are all friends. I believe he is in an emotional affair with the first girl. He was a very strong Christian, who heard how wonderful he is and what an awful I am from these women. He is now hanging around people who tell him what he wants to hear. He is in a major midlife crisis.
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How long married? Any children?
Has he ever had an affair before?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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24 years last month. No kids. Never had an affair.
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Waywards often try to use MB concepts to validate their affairs. The tagline of His Needs, Her Needs is "Building an Affair-Proof Marriage". So, how warped is it to think that this book can be used to validate affairs? Probably so warped that you think a "strong Christian" can commit adultery and still not be sinning.
This is a situation that is begging for exposure. Your husband needs accountability. Don't fall for the "midlife crisis" ruse. Let everybody who can possibly have any influence over your husband know exactly what he is up to. That will destroy the fantasy and force him to deal with the addiction he has to the attention of other women.
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I agree 100%. I believe he is having an affair with the old girlfriend and is using the other 2 to as a cover. I did ask him if he read the whole title....Affair proofing your marriage.
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I agree 100%. I believe he is having an affair with the old girlfriend and is using the other 2 to as a cover. I did ask him if he read the whole title....Affair proofing your marriage. Do you know who the other women are? Are any of these women married? Have you read the Exposure 101 thread?
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Yes , all divorced. The first one was cheated on by ex-husband. Have read the thread.
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Yes , all divorced. The first one was cheated on by ex-husband. Have read the thread. When will you be exposing them?
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I just talked to my father in law's wife and than I called my mother in law. My father in law and his wife are at my sister in laws and my sister in law told my husband to tell the psycho b......... to stop calling them and ruining their Christmas.
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I just talked to my father in law's wife and than I called my mother in law. My father in law and his wife are at my sister in laws and my sister in law told my husband to tell the psycho b......... to stop calling them and ruining their Christmas. Sorry some people support waywards and might be wayward themselves. Who have you exposed to on all the OW's sides? Do they have Facebook?
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Not given to ow family. Spoke to a friend of husband yesterday and he said everyone already knows. They may deny it, but look like complete fools to all of us.
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Not given to ow family. Spoke to a friend of husband yesterday and he said everyone already knows. They may deny it, but look like complete fools to all of us. All that those POSOW's friends know is some fabricated spun version of their relationship. YOU must be the one who contacts them and politely requests their aide in stopping this marriage wrecking behavior and seek support. LTL
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Not given to ow family. Spoke to a friend of husband yesterday and he said everyone already knows. They may deny it, but look like complete fools to all of us. All that those POSOW's friends know is some fabricated spun version of their relationship. YOU must be the one who contacts them and politely requests their aide in stopping this marriage wrecking behavior and seek support. LTL ^^^^ exactly. Sand1, Did you follow the exposure 101 thread? Expose using the templates in the expsore thread.
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what does posow mean? as far as her family, won't my husband and her say I am crazy and my husband already had wanted a divorce and she had nothing to do with it. They keep saying to all.........we are just friends.
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what does posow mean? as far as her family, won't my husband and her say I am crazy and my husband already had wanted a divorce and she had nothing to do with it. They keep saying to all.........we are just friends. Piece Of Shinola Other Woman = POSOW. Just change the word shinola to rhyme with Spit. Of course, thats what they have already been saying. Now it's up to YOU to let them know the truth. The exposure templates that can be found on this site would be worded in the most proper, yyt non-vindictive way possible to clearly get that point across. LTL
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***EDIT***
They all do that. My sister's husband left her and immediately moved in with another chick. Then moved out so it would like he left my sister for another woman, which he did. Now he's back in with her.
Don't get caught up in their stupidity. Just expose so that others know what is really happening, and ask them to try and influence your WH and his affair parnter to end the affair.
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