That is a lie to throw you off balance. He is not leaving you for "porn;" he is leaving you for an AFFAIR. And if you don't get to work and get the evidence you won't be able to save your marriage.

He is having an affair, but he also has a philosophy of marriage that does not support marriage. It is likely that he has had several other affairs in the past.

If I were in your shoes, I would get a good attorney and make sure you have legal protection. This guy is probably not going to ever change.

After a week of monitoring all his devices and internet use (thanks to keyloggers) there is no evidence of affair. I really don't think this is his issue. I think he's having problems with himself as a person. He just wants to "run away". When I look up this, I think he may be experiencing some sort of mid-life crisis and doesn't know what to do. I'm not the only thing he wants to run from. He wants to run from his job as well.

He's making a counseling appointment. I'm done talking to him about these issues. I'm focusing on myself. I went to church for the first time in years on Sunday and greatly enjoyed it. I also started to run. I don't know where my future with him is, but I know i need to work on myself as a person to move forward and become a person I want to become.

Do I want to stay married? Only if he grows to a different person. I don't like the person he has become over the past couple of years. I'm on the fence of saving our marriage or kicking him out. It depends on the day for me or the hour.

Any advice?

I would keep monitoring him. If you can't find anything on his computer, then install spyware on his cell phone and a voice activated recorder in his car. Don't give up..