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I ran over this quote...
"I am determined to be happy and cheerful in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstances but by our disposition" - Martha Washington
Any comments?
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I think there's some truth to that for sure. Attitude is very important.
Happily remarried to wonderful woman who I found using the guidelines in "Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders" 2 baby boys, working on #3 and couldn't ask for anything more. When my ex's affair happened: BH 28, Ex-WW:29 Married: 7 years Together: 8 years D-day: 10/5/2014 D filed: 1/22/2015 D Final: 6/4/2015 My story
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Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you handle what happens to you.
Might be closer to 91% these days. Have to double check my math.
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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I think there is a lot of truth in it. I have a friend who has the most beautiful disposition. Always sunny and positive. She has a debilitating disease and she says that in private she occasionally falls apart and cries. (How could she not?) But then she's back, happy, cheerful, appreciative. It's just her wonderful nature.
Then there are those who have so many blessings but they are negative and being around them just sucks the life out of you.
Attitude is incredibly important and we do have a lot of control over our attitude.
WITH THAT SAID - that does not mean one should accept any life situation and think "If I just had a better attitude this would be good enough." For example if you hate your job, be grateful to have a job but also, look for a better one. If you have an abusive spouse, don't stay in that situation. If you have family/friends who hurt you or who you can't count on, avoid them and cultivate new friendships.
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