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Who all did you expose to? Who on OM's side?
Have you demanded your WW end her affair? If she remains in contact with OM the affair will become more entrenched.
How does she message him?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I exposed to his work and family..they message via Google + hangouts...I also posted him on cheater ville...
She starts going to councilor on wed. She said if the counselor thinks she will stop...she will ask her how to do it...she just can't stop...she said she tried...
But I don't know what to believe at this point.
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I exposed to his work and family..they message via Google + hangouts...I also posted him on cheater ville...
She starts going to councilor on wed. She said if the counselor thinks she will stop...she will ask her how to do it...she just can't stop...she said she tried...
But I don't know what to believe at this point. Does this counselor have a Plan to survive an affair? What history does this counselor have with working with Infidelity?
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I don't know about that. She isn't really being very open about her counselor. This isn't marriage counseling. I'm still hoping she will agree to that.
She wants to see this counselor alone. So I'm hoping for the best.
Yes I have asked her to stop all contact.. it seemed as though the fog lifted one day. And then set back in. I'm working plan a and praying.
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FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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S,
You wrote, She wants to see this counselor alone. So I'm hoping for the best.
Sometimes I think seeing a counselor alone is just bad for a marriage, it's just another opportunity to talk/complain to someone in secret about their spouse, and that's how many affairs start.
God Bless
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Please listen to the clips in here, Beware of Bad Counselors
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I have listened to them. At this point she doesn't want to go to marriage counseling. She wants to go to her own counselor. Not much I can do about that. Without making demands on her.
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Google+ hangouts is how the remain in contact.
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