I opted to listen to the hours of back logs which were more relevant to my current situation than take a gamble on what the show may have been about. But I will continue to listen so I can develop these tools to make me more attractive as a potential husband.

Things seem bad again, a lot of indecision on her part. She claims that right now she doesn't want any sort of relationship or dating with anyone and the current affection I've been giving her feels awkward. She says she wants to keep me around but start as friends and see what happens from there. Is this thing just over or should I actually follow what she's saying?

Friendship between men and women almost always leads to love if there has ever been an attraction.

You will have to start from square one if you want to do this.

Affection is often awkward when the love bank has been wiped. Start small and build up.

Like painting primer.

Things seem to be improving, it's been nice feeling normal again and I can tell there is mutual attractions even if we haven't acted on them. Of course I still have doubts and one thing that worries me is her contact with her lover and other men who are giving her attention. I know where we stand I have no grounds for demands and I understand she has every right to talk to whomever she wants but it's tough to ignore. Should I address this now or just continue to make love bank deposits until things are back on track?

Setting a timescale for yourself might help with coping. We all have to compete for a certain time but it won't work indefinitely. I wouldn't bring it up, because she has made it clear you are friends.

This is a situation where talking about it won't help. Working on being a sympathetic ear, a kind helper and a bit of a flirt would get you further. I would woo her for as long as you feel comfortable doing so and practice doing small scale PoJA. You'll benefit from the learning experience if nothing else.

Maybe six month's wooing then review? One day your daughter may ask how much you two tried to be a couple and if nothing else you can give her an answer.

What are your interactions like?

Yeah honestly 6 months is what I had in mind as well. It is important for me to try as much as I can for our family which is where a lot of my strength is coming from, though I do feel my resentment towards her is growing each day now that I am out of the mourning phase. I'm keeping calm and level headed about it though and focusing on the goal at hand.

The interactions have been nice. We went out to eat together last night and went grocery shopping at our favorite market, at her house we just lay down and talk about our days and such. I've been cautious about affection towards her letting her initiate the first moves, she has been cuddling and laying on me. We were also being playful together doing some light fun rough housing and tickling. No public signs of affection, kissing, or exchanging I love you. I gave her a massage yesterday and she really appreciated it but she passed out from it kinda killing our time together. She has also been attached to her phone and what I'd assume is whoever is giving her attention. I am curious to see how her weekend plans out and how she decides to spend her days off since that has been when she was visiting with her lover.