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I take a class in social psychology. We just wrapped up the topic of attraction and liking. The professor cited a 1997 study by Arthur Aron in which strangers were paired and randomly assigned to engage in impersonal small talk or self-disclosure for 10 minutes. I thought immediately of the MB principles. I explained to my class that my husband and I do not reveal personal information or discuss our marriage with members of the opposite sex as a protective mechanism. The professor said that according to the study, research subjects who engaged in self-disclosure reported feeling closer to the stranger than to their partner. I am not surprised. Thoughts?
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I would suspect that the effect occurred even when the person was the same sex? Anytime you have intimacy with someone else that you do not share with your spouse you are at risk. And the fact that in many marriages there is zero intimacy or trust between the couple makes even the smallest intimacy amplify dangerously.
The stranger also has the advantage of appearing to have no faults at first, I believe there have been other studies were feedback was accepted and compliments appreciated from strangers moreso than family members.
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Last edited by Gamma; 04/17/15 09:03 PM.
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