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Re: Being bullied and need advice
tempered #2854542 05/20/15 09:49 AM
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This is what you wrote in 2008:
Originally Posted by tempered
Black Raven and all,
I spent most of the weekend holed up in a spare bedroom. I know this is wrong, but I have no energy. I make sure my kids are taken care of, and I know they understand. My youngest (13) has spent most of his time in that room with me.

Husband has spent most of the weekend downstairs in his recliner. I occasionally hear him on the phone but I do not suspect it is MOW. We have had two major fights. Huge fights, where this is all my fault.

He asked for sex after one and I did not refuse, he has not spoken to me since.

Your daughter was 15 in 2008.
Your husband is still pressuring you for sex and abusing you by having affairs and blaming everything on you.

If you stick around longer this time, you will be doing much better a year from now.

Last edited by happyheart; 05/20/15 09:51 AM.
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Re: Being bullied and need advice
happyheart #2854545 05/20/15 09:58 AM
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You have to set an example for your daughters.
What they have seen this far from marriage is to stick it out whatever your abusive husband does to you.
That is not courageous.

You want them to learn how to hold their own husbands to a higher standard. Don't you want them to say: "My mother was a strong women who took the high road and held my father accountable for his sleazy behaviour".
She had a hard time, but she held her head up high and came through. That is what you want to learn your daughters.

That they are worth being treated as an equal partner and that they are worth being treated with consideration, respect and love.
And so are you. Worth more than this person that was once your husband wants you to know.

me, DH
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