We have reached interim orders which give me the kids for the next couple months. The way I am looking at this is that, although with her current state of mind she has no business having custody of the children... she moved 2000 miles away so she will be forced to choose the affair (and stay there) or to move back here and be part of the children's lives. I would think that this gives her a strong incentive to rethink things... but it will take some time for her to come to that realization. The custody issue would seem to solve itself unless a judge would really allow her to take my kids out of state so she could be with another man... but it doesn't work that way in my state. She is completely clueless right now. All the restraining orders have been dropped now in the other state and the Judge there is quite fed up with her.
My WW moved out nearly 3 1/2 years ago to carry on affair #3 and even though she broke up with that POS AND at that time our Son just had turned 9 years old.
She only had 5 Very Brief visits with my Son the 1st year and None since. No phone calls, no Christmas Presents or cards, and no Birthday Presents or cards either.
Affairs Change People.
She was a A VERY good mother and wife prior to her 1st one.
I NEVER would have expected 1% of the behaviour she has since exhibited.
There is Drastically something wrong with a Mommy abandoning their own child.
In my case, the Point Of No Return had been reached a long time ago.
Be prepared for who she is now, not who you believe her to be.
LTL