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I think we are starting to make some progress. He has made a long list of questions, which I have been working on answering. My question now is, if he is asking for specific, intimate sexual details, do I give those to him? I do not see how that information will be good for him at all and fear that it will cause more harm than good in restoring our marriage.

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Originally Posted by pakaco
My question now is, if he is asking for specific, intimate sexual details, do I give those to him? I do not see how that information will be good for him at all and fear that it will cause more harm than good in restoring our marriage.

Do you know what is in his best interest? Are you in a position to know what will help him heal?


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Pakaco,

Since you have started on the path of honesty continue and answer all of his questions completely. You've lied to him for years, you can spend half an hour being honest.

If you tell the whole truth now it will be easier on you later. If you do not your BH will likely think the sexual details are far worse then they are.

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Don't withhold from him, it's a very selfish thing to do.

He's a grown man, at least show him the respect of telling him the truth.

If you want to rebuild this, do it on the solid base of honesty, not on the shaky base of deception.


Happily remarried to wonderful woman who I found using the guidelines in "Buyers, Renters, Freeloaders"
2 baby boys, working on #3 and couldn't ask for anything more.

When my ex's affair happened: BH 28, Ex-WW:29
Married: 7 years
Together: 8 years
D-day: 10/5/2014
D filed: 1/22/2015
D Final: 6/4/2015

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