I see it coming... I hear all the warning buzzers going off....The manipulation is twisting its ugliness in me... And yet, here I am wishing I could 'Fix it' and make it all better!<P>This is the situation.... I know H has 7 more days to stay at his moms.... pay up for all the months of free room and board or your outta here.... Hmmmmm, I knew sooner or later it would happen, as I took care of him for most of our 9+ year marriage...<P>Anyway, I know H very well, and he always takes the easy road outta hard situations, which will be the OW.... I want lots of prayer that this is the last move, that H really gets over OW this time and calls it quits, gets a job close by and moves home to take care of his family finally!!!<P>I know I can't fix it and just say... come home its OK.... I know that he hasn't ended it with OW, I know I can no longer be the fixer/enabler and I know that I want a different marriage than the one I had... H knows it too...<P>Anyway, pray for me lots, I need strength and peace in a big way, so that I can once again watch and let go as H packs everything up and moves back to OW.... OUCH This has been the most difficult learning experiance Ive ever dealt with!<P>cozy

HERE ARE SOME PRAYERS PPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP WHEW! GOOD LUCK FRANK<P>------------------<BR>desperate<BR>"If yesterday didn't stop today, Why should TODAY stop tomorrow??" <BR>"Wisdom is why!!"<P>

Cozy - I am praying. Hold on!<P>Lori

Thank you for the prayers, I feel more at peace this morning!!!! I am just going forward with the understanding that my GOD 'IS' in control and that I have to let God finish his work... Keep my hands off...<P>This is really hard for me, but Im going to keep busy with other things and see what God does... It's His business to change people not mine!!!!<P>cozy

Cozy- You are sooooo right! Lets all pray that God figures out what to do and points you in the right direction. God Bless!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

You have my prayers too cozy...<P>I cried and cried when I saw my wife's stuff being put into the moving truck...<P>Knowing that others were praying for me helped too... Knowing I could talk to God any time (especially after she left) was important too. Don't forget to talk to God yourself... <P>Jim

H has packed up and moved in with OW many times, but it never lasts very long, H uses an excuse that he hates where OW lives... I think that H is under such conviction that the stress would make him uncomfortabe regaurdless... Also H and OW fight and I don't think when they are together longer than 2 weeks that they even like each other much....<P>So, Im praying that If H goes there again that this will be streatched to the point that H will finally be done, and know that there can never be any real relationship with OW... It fine for a weekend here and there, but for a long haul I want him to realize its ME that will be the only one for him...<P>I have seen this a few times, where H goes there, they fight, he leaves.... BUT as the affair returns to e/o weekend H forgets that they cant live longterm together... I want it to be permenently etched in his mind this time!!!!! That there is an understanding that It is only in his mind that this affair is a great relationship!!!! <P>Yes NSR I cried the first 3 or 4 times H packed up and left... I don't cry as much anymore, and this time I am just going to Pray alot... No tears.... Break the strongholds...... Bind the confusion.... Set the captive free..... Sin has become H's master, and I'm going to start fighting this battle in a different mode.... ON MY KNEES!!<P>cozy