So the corporate letter does not make any claim that I am the husband and fighting for the marriage. just leave it as is or should I change it?
Thanks

You can post the letter here if you want feedback.

its the corporate template one from the site

To Whom It May Concern:

This letter is to bring a matter to your attention that may be a violation of your Company's Code of Conduct and/or other policies, procedures and business ethics.

xxxxxxxx and xxxxxxxxxxxxxx are involved in an extramarital affair that is taking place, primarily, in the workplace. Aside from the potential sexual harassment claims this situation presents, it also involves the inappropriate use of company resources and assets. xxxxxx and xxxxx are using company time and company resources to further their affair. If you check the call histories on their office and cell phones along with their workstation computers, you will find the two of them are spending an inordinate amount of what should be productive work time to further their sexual relationship.

If you have any questions, please call me at xxxxxxxx. Otherwise, I will anticipate a response from you once you have investigated these concerns and taken appropriate corrective action.

Regards,
xxxxx

Looks good to me.

Very common. My ex had family in our area (MO), in SoCal, and on the east coast. I had personally met all of her family in our area and in SoCal and spent a lot of time with them, got along with them very well...when she was planning her exit and conducting the affair she suddenly started talking to the east coast family and demonizing me to them. They had never met me and I don't think that is a coincidence that she went to them. The rest of her family did not want us splitting up.

Get your evidence lined up and expose broadly to her family. Be in close contact with the ones that you know. If they are good people, they will support you and help you fight this.

Great job with exposing to your kids, I think it's fantastic that you did that. You have done a great thing for them as a father, the best you could do in this very terrible situation.

Keep up the good work sonotfun, this is about to get interesting.

This is basically the same thing that is happening to me. Friends and family that have even spent good amounts of time with us who have seen nothing of me but being kind and gentle to my family now think I'm some kind of monster and controlling husband. The WS probably even convince themselves that this is true as a self protection mechanism against the guilt... so they sound all the more convincing. I am amazed that some people fall for it. I think society just has a negative view of men as all likely abusers so it seems easy for women to do this( especially, after exposure because they are backed into a corner with few other options) This just seems to be textbook for the WS... but it prolongs the process because they get support. If anyone knows how to combat this, it would be helpful.

My ex did not manage to turn the adults who actually knew/spent time with us together, even with her narrative. Her younger siblings, possibly, but the rest of them expressed to me at various points that they did not see me act towards her in the way that she was describing (manipulative, controlling, abusive...same tripe all WWs trot out). They didn't help me fight the affair very much, but they never believed the "he's a monster" narrative.

Some people are more naive than others so it's hard to predict how people will respond, but adults (especially married adults) with a good head on their shoulders will recognize BS when they see it.

What WON'T happen by exposing is them never having a chance to hear the truth. AT THE LEAST you will give them an opportunity to use their brain and do what is right, but you can't force them to.

Betrayed husbands get labeled as abusers and betrayed wives get labeled as crazy and hysterical. Just pick the gender stereo type and that is what the wayward is saying about you.