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Okay I have exposed him to my parents, our siblings, our mutual friends, his mentor friend, her parents, her siblings, and her closest friends.
I have also messaged her per Dr. H's advice.
I am shaking right now. You are doing great, Birdy!! Keep it up. Now contact his boss.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Okay I have exposed him to my parents, our siblings, our mutual friends, his mentor friend, her parents, her siblings, and her closest friends.
I have also messaged her per Dr. H's advice.
I am shaking right now. What about his parents? Who else is left on your list?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Don't stop until you are done. Get this wrapped up and out of the way so you can move onto next steps.
You are doing great! Don't stop until you are done.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes I contacted his parents.
I am sending H the letter before I tell his boss. The Harley's said I could hold off on telling the boss. I am going to go with that advice.
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He is flipping out about me telling people. He is telling me I am blackmailing him.
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I have ruined his life and everything he has and none of what I told people is true.
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Yes I contacted his parents.
I am sending H the letter before I tell his boss. The Harley's said I could hold off on telling the boss. I am going to go with that advice. Wait a minute, I am listening right now and that is not what he said at all. He told you to tell his boss. You have no valid reason to delay this key exposure. You need to get these exposures done TODAY so you can move onto next steps.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I have ruined his life and everything he has and none of what I told people is true. That is nice. Now finish your exposures and stop reading his texts.
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Dr. Bill Harley: "Getting the boss to know about this will be a GIANT LEVERAGE. You need to tell the boss."
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Yes I contacted his parents.
I am sending H the letter before I tell his boss. The Harley's said I could hold off on telling the boss. I am going to go with that advice. Wait a minute, I am listening right now and that is not what he said at all. He told you to tell his boss. You have no valid reason to delay this key exposure. You need to get these exposures done TODAY so you can move onto next steps. What I took away from the conversation with both of them was that I could delay in telling his boss and that is what I wrote down. I 100% take ownership of my actions in this matter and understand that you disagree.
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Yes I contacted his parents.
I am sending H the letter before I tell his boss. The Harley's said I could hold off on telling the boss. I am going to go with that advice. Wait a minute, I am listening right now and that is not what he said at all. He told you to tell his boss. You have no valid reason to delay this key exposure. You need to get these exposures done TODAY so you can move onto next steps. What I took away from the conversation with both of them was that I could delay in telling his boss and that is what I wrote down. I 100% take ownership of my actions in this matter and understand that you disagree. You are making excuses because you are scared. I am listening right now and that is NOT what he said. This is a critical exposure you can't afford to ignore.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Yes I contacted his parents.
I am sending H the letter before I tell his boss. The Harley's said I could hold off on telling the boss. I am going to go with that advice. Wait a minute, I am listening right now and that is not what he said at all. He told you to tell his boss. You have no valid reason to delay this key exposure. You need to get these exposures done TODAY so you can move onto next steps. What I took away from the conversation with both of them was that I could delay in telling his boss and that is what I wrote down. I 100% take ownership of my actions in this matter and understand that you disagree. Why would you choose to drag this out needlessly? Do you want to deal with a nuclear explosion next week too? WHY? There is no need to drag this out. Get it done NOW so this part is over and so you can move onto next steps.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I 100% take ownership of my actions in this matter and understand that you disagree. That's fine, we will keep this on the front burner until it is resolved. You can't afford to cut corners. This is a critical exposure that can't be ignored. After all, this is a workplace related affair.
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First convo with H's mentor friend went awful. He basically told me I will lose all moral high ground by telling everyone. He shook me up a lot but I'm trying to press forward. Lose moral high ground how?? By telling the truth? He is probably wayward.
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I 100% take ownership of my actions in this matter and understand that you disagree. That's fine, we will keep this on the front burner until it is resolved. You can't afford to cut corners. This is a critical exposure that can't be ignored. After all, this is a workplace related affair. I must be completely confused then because I wrote down and re-listened and they said at one point that I could do it in stages with the boss.
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Have you eaten? Take care of yourself.
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It is easier to just get it done.
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He called my mother and tried to tell her it wasn't an emotional affair and that I was going crazy.
My mother told him she is praying for us and wants us to be together desperately but that he was having an emotional affair whether he thinks so or not.
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Dr. Harley: I would tell his boss.
Dr H: His boss will not want him to be having an affair
47:14 Dr Harley: I don't want to hurt him. I don't want to do anything to ruin his life. But i don't want him to do this again
Birdy; That is my worst fear about telling his boss.
Dr H: No, getting the boss to know about this will be a GIANT LEVERAGE. GIANT LEVERAGE
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