I feel like my emotions and thoughts change day to day but one thing I am steadfast on is my resolve to make our marriage work. I don't know that I am ready for plan B(refer to my last post) yet but I am not sure where to go from here. Do I continue to feel so bad until he can come to a form of closure that feels right for him. He tells me to focus on us and making what we have right now the best it can be but is that telling him that he can have the best of both worlds. I have told him that a future with me cannot include her in any way and he understands that but how long do I wait. It seems like forever already.<P>------------------<BR>NICOLE<BR>

I know this feels like forever, believe me. If this what you want you will give it time.<P>I am have difficulty hanging on also, but even though what has happened in my life this weekened. I still love my W and will continue try try.<P>HANG IN THERE<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<BR>

thank-you I will.

Did you read my post? ( about the worst news) If I can fond the strength I believe any one can.<P>------------------<BR>brownphdt<BR>

This is always a tough situation...<P>Have you discussed with your husband a change in careers (his?)... if not, can he talk to the supervisor of OW to eliminate contact?... maybe a relocation for you and H?...<P>I understand the importance of career development/advancement etc. But as for the issue of your marriage... how important is <B>that</B> to you and your H?<P>Love your H... and work together... maybe some solutions are closer than you think. If not... the work is just a little bit harder. <P>Jim<BR>------------------<BR>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...