I don't even know if I should be here. My wife is a district manager in retail. That means she has a lot of people who are managers of their own stores an she is their boss. There is one she talks to a lot. They text all the time. We try to watch movies or shows but she texts. She says its just one of her employees. She laughs, smiles, takes time away from our family (4 kids) to text her. Sometimes they go to other stores together. I feel like she texts her things she won't tell me. I honestly don't think they are physical at all but she gives her priority. What do I do?

With cash, purchase yourself a voice activated digital recording Device and a little velcro. Practice using the recorder a bit to learn carefully how it works. Do not leave your own voice on it in case it's ever found and never reveal specifically what you recorded because it may not be legal in your state but regardless of legality, your wife won't like being eavesdropped upon and you'll lose the opportunity to record again should you ever need too.

Then carefully activate and velcro the recorder under her driver's seat and let it go. You'll capture her conversations and confirm or rule out your suspicions.

If you find out bad stuff, come back her to talk about your next action. Do not confront her with the first little or even big thing you find. Talk to us first.

If you discover your concerns were unwarranted, then simply return the recording device for you cash money back and go about your life.

There is no privacy in marriage (besides bathroom time) you have the right to check up on your spouse and hold them accountable for their behavior. Inspect what you inspect. She wouldn't hesitate to do the same to you....husband's just seem to have much more fear of upsetting their wife.

I agree with the voice activated recorder suggestion.

I would also complain to your wife. Let her know how you feel about her communicating with colleagues during family time. Request that she share all of her passwords to all computers, cell phone, email, communication and social network sites. Spouses should have complete transparency. Share the same with her.

Then read Dr. Harley's material about how you build romantic love with your spouse. Good luck.

No. Dont ask for passwords. She will know you are on to her.
Spy quietly

Sometimes WW use a woman's name when sending texts hiding that she is talking to a man.

Sorry for the delay. I work strange hours and have had a crazy week (also in retail). I know that it's this woman she is talking to because sometimes I can hear her through the phone and sometimes she calls on the home phone and I can see the caller ID is her place of business. I guess I should say that my wife has never dated women but she's a very "open" person so I don't rule it out. One thing that has me thinking this is more than her just being too wrapped up in work is that lots of times when I'm tired and it's late and I'm sure she must be too that she stays up late alone, openly admitting she's texting this woman!

Thank you for the tip on the recorder. I will try that.

Should I talk to her now about how she isn't checked in when with family or wait until I can listen to what I record?

Wait until you get all the facts.

Well I know that men often panic when they find out its a lesbian affair and any adultery is terribly painful but lesbian relationships have terrible failure rates so take some comfort in that.