No, it doesn't. MB does not teach "repression."

You are supposed to be able to get to the point that a thought of the affair crosses your mind, and you remain calm without reacting. To do that, you must be using your GSR meter and practicing thinking those thoughts while forcing yourself to remain calm. There is no repression here.

Yes, but why don't you focus on your own?

It's been a while since I've last posted. Me and my wife started again on the plan, but got in some fights, little things that I should have let go. She tried to move out, and I froze the account. We got in a few arguments, I told her to go back to chatting with OM, and she actually said, I will consider your offer this time.
We didn't talk for a while after that. I ignored her, she ignored me, until enough time had gone by and I tried to talk to her again. She would keep ignoring me. I went back to trying to work things out and she actually came with the I don't love you anymore. I asked her if she had contacted OM, and she answered, maybe. I said, how could you. Really??? How could she, twice???? Are you serious???? No way. Really??? How could you??? She said I don't care about you anymore, because it is either me or you who will be happy. Not true, and that is a lousy excuse. Didn't you learn anything in all the marriage builders forum. She actually said, oh, yes, here is my login user name. Won't need it anymore. And added 'I guess I don't have character after all, and I guess you were right about me all along' (that because I always told her she would end up back chatting with OM), I guess I am selfish after all, I rather not care about you than not care about me. STOP!!!! For crying out loud. Enough!!!

I went to a real plan A now, I know, why now when she is out of the game, I don't know. I guess because I still love her. Maybe I wanted her to go back and actually write a good no contact letter, not like her last love type none contact letter. I don't know.

I have been not getting mad, and trying to get her to look at me at least, and she avoids me completely. She is never on the phone, or on the computer. She is just not present even when she is next to me. She is looking at the wall, or the floor. I have been completely not love busting now, she made some few messes, and this time, I actually was thinking of us, and how I want a chance to change.

I googled OM's facebook, he wrote an open post "I am so glad you are back baby, you've always been in my heart". I don't know if that is actually a message to my wife, or what, coincidence? I found out he is still not married, figures. My wife posted on her facebook status "I feel alive again".

This time, I am sure she is having an affair again, she clued me about it. But, how can I expose something I have no proof about.

Another clue, after that day, she has been coming 15 minutes to half an hour later than usual. GPS indicates she is in school at that time, where she has computers available.

She really isn't doing much actively, cleans the house, plays with the kids, even cooks my meals, but is doing way too much passively, with an evil-angel look, not really looking at me, or answering my questions like I described, avoiding me, and sleeping in the girls room. Maybe an affair, yes no character, yes you were right. Is she telling me she is in contact with OM again?

PC, you've demonstrated that you can't stick to the plan, so I wouldn't expect it to work now because it is going to be even harder to keep your emotions in check.

I would encourage you to get on antidepressants to level your emotions out, get after the anger management work with a GSR device, and contact Dr. Harley for advice.

I am the poster child for hanging around Marriage Builders for years and not getting control of my anger.

It doesn't work. It will never work.

None of these problems, not even the affair (if she's having one), can be fixed until you succeed at following Dr. Harley's recommendations and eliminate angry outbursts.

Once you have done that, and only then, you can move on to how to put your marriage back together.

* Antidepressants
* GSR meter
* Dr. Harley