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#2865749 09/11/15 07:21 PM
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Hi! So I have been here for a while but my divorce will be final in a couple weeks & thought I would say hi!

Married 5-2010
Started reading Dr. harley 2011
Signed up for MB:2012?.. I lost email/password & re-registered in 2013
Found my soon to be ex posting- Ernie78
Started online course Feb 2014
Asked for separation 9/2014 for Anger Management/Hoarding treatment
Moved into my own place with kids 4/15
Filed 5/11/15
Done? 9-15 sometime here

3 great kids, 15-S, 10-D, 4-D.

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BW-3 Kids
Sep:2014
Divorced

"I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.
I will persist until I succeed." Og Mandino
Elaina7 #2865892 09/14/15 12:30 PM
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Welcome to divorcing Elaina! How are you doing emotionally with it? How are your kids doing?


Ddays 2007 and 2011
Plan B 6/21/11
Divorced July 2012
2 kids
How to Plan B Correctly
Parallel Parenting in Plan B
SusieQ #2865901 09/14/15 03:25 PM
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Thanks for coming back and letting us know how you are, I was worried about you!


Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
Married 15 years, Divorced 10/2010
SusieQ #2865922 09/15/15 12:45 PM
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Originally Posted by SusieQ
Welcome to divorcing Elaina! How are you doing emotionally with it? How are your kids doing?

Hi Susie!
My kids are doing fine. The oldest 2 are not his and he never bonded with them so the oldest is to busy with his own life to really care (he is 15 and in college) and the younger girl (10)is thrilled honestly.

Our DD4 year old doesn't totally get what divorce is, but she is used to going out and thinks now she will just get more daddy/daughter dates so I will have to just watch over her as she grows.

AS for me, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of me. I still have moments of sadness but I am at peace.

That said, I do love the house we moved into. It has a community pool that we have used a ton, and its a good location. I like my new job... I feel like I am helping people. I am trying to forge some new relationships but still have some older friends to talk to some. My folks moved here a year and a half ago so I am happy to have them close as well.
I have decided to look for a new church so we will see what I find. smile



BW-3 Kids
Sep:2014
Divorced

"I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.
I will persist until I succeed." Og Mandino
NewEveryDay #2865923 09/15/15 12:46 PM
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Originally Posted by NewEveryDay
Thanks for coming back and letting us know how you are, I was worried about you!

Hi New! Thanks for the welcome!


BW-3 Kids
Sep:2014
Divorced

"I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.
I will persist until I succeed." Og Mandino
Elaina7 #2866432 09/25/15 08:33 PM
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Is your divorce final yet? How are you and the kids doing?


FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



BrainHurts #2874086 01/11/16 02:14 AM
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HI!
My divorce was final on the 5th.

My kids are doing just fine. My 15 year old starts another semester in college, my 10 year old seems to be thriving and my 4 year old is just so darn cute!
Transfers are going fine and now that it is over-I think things are going better then they did when we were together.

So there is my update!

Work is going well (I love love my job)
I still home school the 2 younger ones (since my oldest is done)
I have been asked to become the worship leader at church (I am a really good singer) Still deciding
I am looking at other work, but I love my house and my job now so it is slow going!
I changed my last name in the Divorce and that is cool but not fun getting all my stuff changed!

I feel really good about myself and remember that I am a really wonderful, beautiful woman and am happy.

I love MB and have read everything Dr. H has ever written at this point.


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BW-3 Kids
Sep:2014
Divorced

"I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.
I will persist until I succeed." Og Mandino

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