My husband had an affair moved in with her. I still remained with him, we he worked in the city during the week and came home on the weekends. We have children together. I told him either to move out or I'll be out which he did 9 months ago, but he was unsure weather or not to remain in the marriage.
He has got general problems with being close to someone, he was never in a relationship before. He has problems with his sexulatiy and did have very little experience before. He though could be very passionate with that OW, but this wained and it is platonic now. The problem is that we had always sexual problems (the only real problem in our marriage) and since he told me about the OW he refused to have sex at all.
He started seeing her once again. His contract of his apartement elapsed and he moved back in with her in his old apartement, he said it is not because of her but it is very difficutlt to find something. I said if he does this I am out and so it was.
Now I am single since some weeks and cope very well, first it was easier not always to think on our relationship, but I know that still I want him back. He cares deeply for us and wants that he still pays everything for us, which in case of a divorce I don't want. The kids are devasted and angry with him. He told my son that he misses me.
I do no communication for the last several weeks but yesterday I phoned and asked if now he is happy (quieter) and how the relationship with the OW goes (no respense, which for me translates bad).
What he wants is being with a woman (me) but without the sex and without the obligations. He had these strange platonioc relationships before. I don't want to give him that.
Is there any chance for our marriage? Or should I simply move on? I know that if I asked him to see me he would like that, but then I would be back immediately in this half relationship. H ehates psychologists BTW.
My part of the whole thing was: being to preoccupied about our relationship and not about me, mothering, and telling him all his shortcomings (like you have problems, you need help...)
