Hello everyone im a 31 year old mother of three who has been through hell and back with a selfish unfaithful husband. my turning point came in september when i was admitted in hospital for two weeks with severe depression by the top psychiatric in my country.I am about to start a divorce at the end of October and I really needed a support group and im happy to see all of you. I really need strength to do this.

Hi, Tayla; welcome to Marriage Builders.

Can you fill us in on a few more specifics about your situation? How long was your husband unfaithful, and with how many people? Do the two of you have any children together? How long have you been married? Who have you told about your husband's infidelity?

Let me take the opportunity to point you to Dr. Harley's daily Marriage Builders Radio show which he hosts with his wife Joyce. You can get an app for your phone that will let you listen, or listen on your computer. There is a lot of great advice there for someone planning a divorce.

Thanks markos for the information

we have been married for 6 years. we courted for two years and it was very blissful, we even never had sex until our honeymoon night. 3 months into the marriage he had an affair with my best maids sister who was also a neighbor. I had a great job and was able to buy a car which I never drove and this now became his van for driving college girls around. so far I know he has cheated on me with 11 ladies all between age 19 to 21. there are two elder ladies in their fourties too. (please don't ask why I stayed, I completely lost my self esteem) in 2013 he got into a terrible car accident with one of them that cost us $20,000. He promised he would reform but barely four months afterwards he was in an affair with another college girl who is pregnant for him. Did I mention he quit his job and even when he was working he was not providing hence I was so financially drained. I have forgiven until I cant do it anymore, I just have to leave. We have 3 children.

We would all agree it's high time you left him! Are you still living in the same house?

Here is some info for you to read:
How to Plan B CORRECTLY

Parallel Parenting

This guy sounds like a terrible predator who wanted you to be the faithful wife at home to keep up appearances while he philandered around with others constantly.

Be sure and read those links my wife provided.

Do you have a very good lawyer?

Congratulations for making this decision, you are absolutely doing the best thing by divorcing. Your little ones need one sane and healthy parent, it will obviously not be their wayward father so it must be you! Protecting your own sanity and well being is just as important as protecting their from this madness, because they need their mom!

Please read up on Plan B. Once you enter Plan B it will only be a short time before you will feel like a whole new person I bet, you have suffered so long I doubt you even know what it feels like to have the burden of an abusive spouse lifted from your shoulders.

I feel such a huge relief. I wonder why it took me so long to realize this. Thankyou all for the info its great to be part of this forum with such wonderful support. I have a great lawyer.

I have just written my letter and read the intermediary and parental links. Wow!!! am I not blessed to be here. Thankyou so much

Good for you. Do you have someone to be your IM?