Hhh, it's a good idea to make changes in your behavior to make yourself more attractive. However, you obviously can't sell the idea of UA time if you don't tell her the plan and the goal. She is emotionally checked out and won't likely go out on 4- 4 hour dates meeting the top 4 intimate emotional needs if she doesn't understand WHY. It is better to sell her on the program and be transparent as possible in order to gain her buy in.

Most of us who have gone through Dr Harley's course brought a reluctant spouse with us. Those spouses are fully engaged today because they were sold on the program. Try to think of fun dates that you know she will enjoy. Perhaps you can even take her shopping to prime the pump initially?

Sell her on the plan and the follow up with a weekly schedule of dates. Otherwise you are wasting your time. If she is reluctant, you have many resources here to help get her on board.

"Back off on the marriage builders stuff.
I'm happy with things as they are.
No it probably isn't right."