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Plus you could send your XH your new contact information attached to your letter so he knows you are ready for take action, not just talk. It is a show of good faith.
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Encouraging to see that you stuck around! 4. Eliminate social media accounts, or give you passwords to all. Giving him the passwords is not a solution. It still leaves the door wide open. I would just delete them if he agrees to your plan. That will be the safest thing for you both. I would go ahead and just change your phone number and eliminate any ways that this POSOM can contact you - even if you do not reconcile with your BH, this man is not good for you and you are a danger to his marriage. So go ahead and at the very least change your phone number and email regardless. I have an Iphone and have him currently blocked. But, you're right. I should just change my number in case he tries to call from another phone.
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Encouraging to see that you stuck around! 4. Eliminate social media accounts, or give you passwords to all. Giving him the passwords is not a solution. It still leaves the door wide open. I would just delete them if he agrees to your plan. That will be the safest thing for you both. I would go ahead and just change your phone number and eliminate any ways that this POSOM can contact you - even if you do not reconcile with your BH, this man is not good for you and you are a danger to his marriage. So go ahead and at the very least change your phone number and email regardless. I have an Iphone and have him currently blocked. But, you're right. I should just change my number in case he tries to call from another phone. Also, you can unblock him in 2 seconds so that really is not a protection for your XH.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Rather than demanding something from you, I�m offering you A plan. Typo in the original.
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4. I haven�t had any contact with Tracy since the last text I sent you with the response to him trying to talk to me. I�ve since then blocked his number and everything else. BTW, when did this last contact happen that you mentioned in your love letter?
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I have an Iphone and have him currently blocked. But, you're right. I should just change my number in case he tries to call from another phone. Also, you can unblock him in 2 seconds so that really is not a protection for your XH. And the OM can just text or call you from an unblocked number. This is why it is so important to follow steps as outlined here.
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4. I haven�t had any contact with Tracy since the last text I sent you with the response to him trying to talk to me. I�ve since then blocked his number and everything else. BTW, when did this last contact happen that you mentioned in your love letter? That was back in August. Although, I hadn't seen or heard from him in a while before that.
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4. I haven�t had any contact with Tracy since the last text I sent you with the response to him trying to talk to me. I�ve since then blocked his number and everything else. BTW, when did this last contact happen that you mentioned in your love letter? That was back in August. Although, I hadn't seen or heard from him in a while before that. And when was the last time you talked to his wife?
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4. I haven�t had any contact with Tracy since the last text I sent you with the response to him trying to talk to me. I�ve since then blocked his number and everything else. BTW, when did this last contact happen that you mentioned in your love letter? That was back in August. Although, I hadn't seen or heard from him in a while before that. And when was the last time you talked to his wife? April.
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Have you sent him the love letter yet?
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That was back in August. Although, I hadn't seen or heard from him in a while before that. And when was the last time you talked to his wife? April. So this means you never exposed the broken NC (text from OM) to his BW? You need to let her know.
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