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Other than CS, where is the money going? Medical bills?
The reason I ask is that $1650 is a good bit to live on each month, so debt or something is eating it up.
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First, great to hear about your health improvement. It sounds very serious and it's a big luck that you went to surgery, otherwise when they would diagnose you. Now, when the cause fixed, hopefully, you will fully recover and forget about health problems.
Have you managed to move forward with your business idea? As far as I remember, it was very promising.
Regarding improving your chance for reconciliation, SugarCane has outlined what you need to work on. That would be good for any future relationship as well. Ha, I didn't even touch on that because that is such a mess also. It had progressed to the point where we got a prototype manufactured and partially assembled, then the engineer I hired declared that "you ain't the boss no more" and that HE was the boss. He stopped doing what I asked of him and he convinced the machine shop owner that I was some kind of idiot and the guy would not release the prototype to me even though I paid for it. So they are both breaking the law but I have to sue them to get them to acquiesce. The company has been on hold for almost a year because of this. I've spoken to two lawyers so far and they have both told me that these two knuckleheads don't have a leg to stand on. I protected myself but I have to sue to enforce.
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You'd think, but yes, I have obligations and food is more expensive than you think these days. I could not believe how much I spend on food each month, even though I'm being budget-conscious. I do (did) spend some on my kids. I take them to different places and I'll take them to chick-fil-a a couple times a month. This past Christmas I managed to keep my gift spending to $120. My car insurance is $120 a month and I am looking to change providers. I joined AARP so I could get insurance cheaper through them. No old guy jokes, please :oP
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But some obligations can be re-negotiated until you gain traction.
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But some obligations can be re-negotiated until you gain traction. That's what the credit repair does. After I do that, I should qualify for a mortgage. There are small, pretty decent houses for sale near where I live now that are $70k-80k. The mortgage would be way cheaper than the rent I was paying.
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Are you paying for the "repair?" You can usually do it yourself for free.
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There are FREE HUD Approved Credit Counseling services available. I am using one to attempt to get a HAMP Mortgage Loan Modification.
Also, there are shared living arrangement homes that can be quite reasonable. In the Chicago area, it would be between $300.00 to $450.00 per month. The one's I know of are called Clean Living or Sober Living units.
If not drinking At All is not a problem for you, contact the closest Alano Club, Alcoho Treatment Facility or ask someone who is active in AA.
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There are FREE HUD Approved Credit Counseling services available. I am using one to attempt to get a HAMP Mortgage Loan Modification.
Also, there are shared living arrangement homes that can be quite reasonable. In the Chicago area, it would be between $300.00 to $450.00 per month. The one's I know of are called Clean Living or Sober Living units.
If not drinking At All is not a problem for you, contact the closest Alano Club, Alcoho Treatment Facility or ask someone who is active in AA.
LTL I just find it interesting that I should be having to consider any of those things at all.
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There are FREE HUD Approved Credit Counseling services available. I am using one to attempt to get a HAMP Mortgage Loan Modification.
Also, there are shared living arrangement homes that can be quite reasonable. In the Chicago area, it would be between $300.00 to $450.00 per month. The one's I know of are called Clean Living or Sober Living units.
If not drinking At All is not a problem for you, contact the closest Alano Club, Alcoho Treatment Facility or ask someone who is active in AA.
LTL I just find it interesting that I should be having to consider any of those things at all. So are you going to consider any of them?
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I'm done. I've exhausted all avenues and all I've managed to do is make my entire family hate my guts. Everyone has abandoned me, I have no money, I have no vehicle, I have no place to live, I have no hope left.
But hey, as long as my ex wife is happy, our girls will be happy. And boy, won't she be happy about what happens next.
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