I don't see her rejecting it at all. I see a woman who is battling her - wrongheaded - emotions and needs support in that regard. Her situation is far more complex than just the death of an affair. I hope you will help and encourage her in staying dark and focusing on creating a life without her husband. She will achieve happiness, good judgement and sanity much faster than holding out false hope.

I would not. Because you are in Plan B and because I don't see how more exposures is going to do anything other than create blowback for you. Your H has left and filed for divorce so exposure is not going to gain you any support and won't hurt his affair. It will just cause you grief by keeping you embroiled in his drama and by inviting hatred from others.

Ok

A recent Plan B-er, PigletWiglet, recommends removing oneself from social media so you are not exposed to the infidels.

Oh I am off FB.

How did you find out OW's family now when you couldn't before?

Friends said the OW mom died who are still on FB. If I were to have done a FB exposure again now...which I'm not...I could've reactivated my own FB acct and sent OW family the exposure letter. In the OW moms death all the family incl OW daughter were commenting...thus giving me a treasure trove of OW family to send too.

But I think Melody is right...it's kinda too late. My WH already cheated...already filed for divorce and has no need or want to come back.

The celebrate recovery pastor texted me today...said WH didn't go again last night...said WH said he was at a funeral. Means OW mom funeral...means they are still together and my previous FB exposure letter indeed had NO effect on stopping the affair.

I am off FB and have not been on since FB exposure. And here I was thinking my exposure worked since he's harassing my IM so bad over the truck/ins. He's now refusing to pay the ins. Sigh. I'm just disgusted but I'm not gonna wrangle over $55. Turns out he's just an [censored].

This isn't Plan B.

If you were in Plan B, the pastor would know not to give you any news of your H. Instead, you are looking for any news you can get about your H, and the pastor is giving it to you. This is the opposite of Plan B, and it is hurting you.

The goal of your exposure letter was to expose the affair, so of course it worked.

The exposure at the time was only to WH mom and WH and OW friends and coworkers.

The pastor texts me randomly to see how I'm doing. He knows I have blocked his email and have an IM. I don't tell the pastor what he can and cannot tell me...esp since it's so infrequent.

But you're right sugar it impacts me...because I feel bad for him that he is so far goooooone. Then I feel bad in what I know. None of it is good.

Do you still have the same phone number? It would be best to change it.

Dr Harleys plan is so good, it is the simpelest way to preserve your mental health and help you recover the quickest way possible. If you implement the plan right now, you will reduce the damage done to you and you will be over the heartache in relatively little time.

A minister I once heard had a very good comparison on time. He told the story of a man who was walking and carelessly throwing away little stones he had in his pockets. At the end of his walk, most of the stones were gone. He looked closely at the stones and discovered they were diamonds.
As we live, we are careless with time. Every day that is gone, you will never get back. Be aware of the real value of time and spend it wisely.

Do you want to spend your precious time being hurt over and over again? Each breach of plan B sets you back at zero. It will take you longer to recover, all of it time you will not get back.

I had to learn this the hard way and want others not to make the same mistake as I did (it cost me years). If you follow the plan to the letter, you will gain precious time that otherwise would be spend hurt and probably depressed.

Dr Harly's theories aren't just some thoughts written down, but research has been done and all of it is proven to be effective. Your mind will be all over the place, what your instinct tells you to do, is probably not best for you. This plan is.

Do you want to pant for this man and keep hurting or do you want to recover? A year from now, do you wish you implemented the plan today or will you wish you suffered longer? Start your watertight plan B today and you will gain precious time.

Agreed Goody. I'm doing that. It's hard yes...but it's clear that all his ugliness is still present and he's trying to find ways to make me suffer. Including not paying the ONE asset WH wants. So I'm trying to not let that get me all riled up and wait on court on 3/3. Patience is so NOT my virtue and I realize...slowly here...that the less info and contact the better.

I'm Just irritated that WH thinks he shouldn't have to pay car insurance. Children don't pay insurance. Fiscally responsible adults DO.

It's just manipulation.

He still hasn't tried to finance the truck in his name. I had thought I'd just wait til the first court date 3/3 and let the judge dictate that. But part of me thinks I should have my IM give him the hint so it's done before 3/3 and he can have his quickie divorce. The other part of me thinks wait and let him sink further into his own mess and let the judge decide.

I don't want to respond to his manipulation. But court is a month away and he's messing with assets that affect me and it's scary.

You need to stop thinking about the d**n truck or anything to do with it. It's just a thing. You are not giving Plan B a chance to work.

Plan B still means I have business to take care of...while my heart stopped beating...business as usual continues...that is all I'm referring too.

My job requires my credit to be spotless and my WH is using it against me it would appear. Truck is in my name only. WH has possession of it and wants it as part of the divorce. It's a "thing" I can not just overlook and let my credit get dinged. If my job wasn't so sensitive then I could just let it go past due and take the credit ding...but my job matters and if I lose it to this numb nuts it does me nor my son any good.

I'm not sure why people are so critical of me over this issue. I can't afford to pay if WH does not.

Plan B is in effect. Emails are blocked. His phone is blocked. I'm off social media. I have an IM on board who knows the drill. I have NC with WH.

Don't give in. Ignore him and his manipulation, pay the insurance for now and get it straightened out 3/3.

Plan activities that are about you. Keep yourself occupied, have coffee with old friends, paint your toenails, sing karaoke, take a long walk. Keep your mind occupied with more important things, like the choice between pink and red nailpolish.

And I still think you need to change your phone number.