My current wife and I are both on our second marriages. We have been married now for just over a year and I can truly say I have never felt so in love in my life. My wife comes from an abusive marriage of 12 years, everything from physical to emotional to mental abuse. Her ex-husband is still in the picture because they have children together and co-parent very well. Her ex just got re-married as well. Now my wife feels that she is chubby, me not so much, I love the way she looks, , but I know that is beside the point. The ex-husbands wife posted on Facebook yesterday and tagged the kids in her post which was a picture of the new wife and friends. My wife promptly said, I need to lose weight, she cannot be skinnier than I am. I questioned it, because why does she need to compete with the ex's new wife? She kind of just said, you know how it is. Which I don't. Anyway, something came up and we didn't get to really talk about it, but later on I said to her you know you are so much prettier than her and don't have to think like that. She came back and said again you know what I mean, I just responded with no I really don't. Her kids came back so the conversation ended.
Know this leaves me feeling and believing (maybe wrongly not sure) that she is competing with her ex's new wife, but why?? She says and I do believe that she never really loved him (it was a save me from my family life situation that she hoped would bring love). Anyway I obviously have this stuck in the back of my mind, I know some of its jealousy on my part but a lot of it is not understanding why she feels the need to compete with her, when she has her own husband who truly adores her and loves who and what she is, when her ex-husband constantly belittled her and abused her about her weight.
