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<BR>What I found shocking was how frequently he defends her to me. I have known her for 10 years (Iworked with her) and I know how many affairs she has had. She is a true PREDATOR.The thing is, he knows I have spoken of her many times over the years, but still laughs and refuses to believe this about her!<BR>He thinks they are just "rumors" from jealous catty women! Where does this defending of the OW come from!Doesnt he realize this makes it hurt MORE?
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Aces,<BR>Yes this is one of the most hurtful parts of post discovery for me too! My H defends the OW, even now almost a year after discovery. I think it hurts so much because he didn't (doesn't) protect me! He did care to protect my feelings, my health, or my well being.<P>I often wonder why I keep on keeping on with this. I need him to defend me! But I think this is something I will never get......
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hmmm, I'm not sure which is worse them defending the enemy, or thenm worrying soooo much about the op's poor little feeling, I mean really the spouse is crying, about to lose their mind, and h says, oh I've got to go to her, she's crying. AAARRRGGGGGGGG its like op is the only person in the wiorld whos pain is real.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>
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