Bumping this thread. I just read through the first 20 pages or so of it again. I know I still hang onto resentment and wish I could just let it go! I love Pep's analogy about the mountain.

BTW, I miss Pepperband.

This is a very insightful and helpful thread. I think I read a little some time back but wasn't in a place where it made the sense it does now. Thanks for the bump.

I know this is old.

But what do you do when your Wife resents you so much that she says nothing will fix it and can't be with you anymore?

You focus on killing her affair, Nick. You do not waste time bumping threads in areas of the MB site that are intended to deal with couples in Recovery (i.e. - not you). You do not use the MB forum to blog and ponder "what if"s. You focus on killing the affair, because if you never attempt to do that, your wife's affairs will multiply and she will leave you for someone else.

You expose as you've been advised to do.

You take your courage in your hands and you fight for the future of your small children. If your wife goes off with the scumbags to whom she has been sending naked pictures, she will have your children with her half the time, and they will be at risk of sexual abuse from her low-life sexual partners.

You've been here since Sunday, and between all the posters, HOURS have been spent posting to you and trying to guide you through the steps - and yet here you still are, no further forward than you were nearly a week ago.

Blogging on this forum, and bumping old threads, is not going to save your marriage. Only tackling the affair, starting with exposure, can do that.

Didn't want you to miss this very important fact. Expose her affairs for your kids.

You learn and follow the Marriage Builders plan. That's what you do. That's what I did.

And if you can't stick to the plan you see a doctor about getting some medication to think you help rationally for the duration. That's what I did. It's part of the plan.

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RmrsflChtr16, please start your own thread and introduce yourself and your situation to the community.

Please familiarize yourself with the Marriage Builders concepts before posting on other threads, or refrain from posting.

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RmrsflChtr16, please check your email.