So a month ago we, or I should say I, bought a car from my husband's friend (I should say more of an acquaintance--they race together but don't really hang out) who lives just outside our subdivision. This car was the guy's ex-wife's car that he was selling for her. We were looking for one and he happened to post on his Facebook page that he was selling his and my H contacted him and he brought it by that night. We each drove it and liked it, but it was to be my car. I wrote the check and gave it to the guy. I barely know the guy other than he races motorcycles with my husband.

So I took the title he gave me and went to the DOL the next day to transfer it and was told it wasn't the most recent. Had H give him a call saying we needed a newer one, which he said he had but forgot to grab it. So the next morning at like 6:30 as I was about to head out the door for work he stops by and drops it off because he's just getting off work and only lives a couple of blocks away. H was still in bed at the time but I got it from him and he gave me his number so I could contact him if there were any more issues. Don't know why he gave me his number when H already had it.

So the next day I go back to the DOL and they tell me there is a still a newer title than the one I have. I text the guy and say there should be another title. He apologizes profusely and says he'll call his ex and see if she has it. He texts me which doesn't come through and then calls saying she's going to the DOL to get an affidavit because she can't find it. Then an hour later or so texts and profusely apologizes for it and says she'll bring it up tomorrow or he'll go get it from her and bring it over. Well she's an hour away so just have her mail it! Finally get it and it's the right one and I got the title transferred about 2 weeks ago.

No contact with the guy since then but last week I, not my husband, get a text from him saying: "Hi Mapparino (I'm paraphrasing there, but he used a nickname to what my name actually is like he was trying to be cute). Just wanted to let you know that I have some nanowax made for your car. If you want, I can swing by this weekend and get it all waxed up for ya if you want. I really don't have a life anyways LOL. It's made for black cars with 5 layers of clear coat. Anywho, just thought I'd say hi."

Okay, I barely know the guy and he's getting all cutesy with me and wanting to come by and not just drop the wax off but wax the car?? I even looked up what nanowax is and it's for ALL cars, not just black ones so why did he say that? My husband worked that weekend as well so there's no way I wanted this guy coming over and why didn't he just contact my husband about it? I showed H the text and he got kind of upset thinking this guy is trying to creep in on me. He called him back and said "Dude you can drop off the wax but you don't need to come over and wax it yourself. That's a bit much. And if you want anything else just call or text ME okay?"

I mean that's like an equivalent of me selling a car to a coworker who I kind of know and her husband that I've met briefly once or twice. The husband is the guy actually buying it and then only texting the husband about coming over to wax the car and "just saying hi"! Why would I "just be saying hi" to the husband of a coworker when you barely know me?? Oh yeah and it's been almost a week now and the guy hasn't dropped off the wax as my husband said he could!

Am I right to find this odd?

You are correct that this guy was way off base and didn't respect you or your Husband or your marriage. This is exactly how affairs start.

Good job that you showed your Husband and your Husband contacted him.

Delete his number he is no Friend of marriage. In the future I recommend even stronger boundaries and to not text other men and let all communication go through your Husband.

Welcome to MB.

The first time I had the wrong title I had H call him. I didn't have his number anyways, nor should I. He brought by what was supposedly the right title the next morning and gave me his number in case there were any more issues. Makes sense that I just deal with him directly if any other issues came up rather than have H call him. Just like I would with any business transaction. Nothing fishy about that. Then I did need to contact him again because the title was still incorrect. At that point he was saying how sorry he was and that both him and his ex are so embarrassed. He was going to have her bring it up to me or he was going to go down to her place and get it, which was an hour away. I told him to just have her mail it...I'll have it in two days and I've got 15 days to get it transferred. Nothing weird about any of it up to that point. It just got weird two weeks after I got the title transferred when he offered to wax the car that was no longer in his possession. And he was just texting to say "hi". Um I barely know you!I keep telling myself that maybe it was just an overly friendly gesture to make up for all the back and forth with the title, but it's creepy. I am not sure if he remembered I had told him that H works on Saturday's or not.

There was a shooting in our area over the weekend where a jealous boyfriend went and shot his ex girlfriend who had broken up with him a week before. For whatever reason, this prompted H to say to me "Did I ever tell you what that guy said to me when I called him?" I said no. He tells me that this guy said "Well I texted you first but it didn't go through for some reason so I texted her". That seems odd! You have his number in your phone and the phone calls work fine, but the text won't go through??

It's weird that he would text me at all, but I find it even weirder (if indeed it is true) that he would text H in the first place after not having spoken with him for a month and ask if he'd like to have him come over a wax a car! I mean really? A guy asking another guy to come over a wax a car that no longer belongs to him?? Wouldn't any guy find it weird that a "sort of" friend would offer to come over and wax a car while we go about our usual business??

I'm sure he lied about texting your H because he was confronted.

So how is your UA time?