know I am at fault for so very much.

DEAR Husband, I am truly sorry for my part in making an environment between us that helped lead to your affair. I wasn�t focused on the right things for you and for us, and I wasn�t paying attention to or understanding how I as your partner wasn�t fulfilling your needs.I wasn�t there for you when you needed me the most and now we�re both suffering for my mistake. I want to create a new life for both of us that will meet your most important needs. I want more than anything to give you the absolute best, most loving, caring environment that has your complete happiness all over it, but that�s not possible until you end your relationship affair with skanky.

ThisYour affair has been the most painful experience of my life and I can�t bear to continue to live like this anymore. Until it ends and you�re willing to help rebuild our relationship in a way we both want, I unfortunately need to step back and avoid any contact. I have been suffering so much because of your relationship, and I think you have seen the effect it�s had on me. I haven�t dealt well with this at all. I just can�t be with you any longer knowing that you are seeing each other. I still love you but can�t see you while this continues.

Please send any pertinent information through my friend, Sally, and she will get it to me. I ask that you not come in the house anymore. When you come to visit son, please make arrangements with him and pick him up and drop him off in the drive way. I would expect that all the bills would be paid in the same way.

As soon as you are willing to put an end to that and join me in recreating a new relationship with me, I will be willing to talk about our future together. I so wanted to do that with you in our new home. Please understand that I want to preserve what�s between us, and hope we will be able to rebuild our marriage. I want us to be able to take care of each other and avoid doing things that hurt each other. I know we can build a new life together in a way that makes us both so happy. Nothing is more important to me than understanding that and getting it right. Then, there will never again be a reason for us to want anything else or to be separated like this. I want to be your best friend and lover, someone who is always there for you when you need me, and I want that from you too. I have cared for you for our entire lives including the day we married, and I still do. I would like nothing better than to take the absolute best care of you. But it is not possible for me to help you as long as you are in this relationship.

That will work out in your favor. You can send him the letter AFTER he leaves and change the locks. OR you could slip the letter in his suitcase and text him after he leaves telling him it is there.

You will also need to block him from contacting you. For example, you can block his # on your phones and change your email address or block him. Try to anticipate every way he would try to reach you and block it off.

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How will he get his clothes and things?

Yes I've written the plan B letter. My husband also read the book after w had a session with Steve so he knows the gameplan. He basically accused me of writing it with Stece

I don't understand. You already gave him this letter? why? What happened?

WHAT online version? Can you post it? I need to see that you didn't leave any openings.

You need to also designate your IM in the letter, tell him what you expect from him financially and communicate your visitation plan. Since you have a high schooler, he can probably just contact the child directly to make arrangements.


Typically a friend is best. One who can agree to remain neutral and who will act as a SPAM filter. She would only pass on necessary financial/legal information and will not argue, lecture or pass on fogbabble to you. Do you have a female friend that has some balls?

It doesn't sound like you are taking this very seriously.

I've blocked texts and calls. Changing locks tomorrow.