Only there was never infidelity... which is a lot more than most of the people on this site can say.
I don't think I have ever seen anything like this on the MarriageBuilders forum before, a person who posts and returns years later and proceeds to:
~get frustrated that old thread/s were pulled up (something that posters have a right to no matter what)
~argue that old thread about her wanting an open marriage is somehow OK since it was a lie to get her serial cheating husband in line (you wasted posters' time)
~brag about her "truthfulness" since she didn't ACTUALLY cheat (huh?? You lied to your H and the forum), and then taking shots at others on the forum since they have cheated and you didn't.
Do you realize how insensitive comments regarding wanting an open marriage (it doesn't matter if you say you had an agenda to trick your husband - I would say that makes it worse) all the way to the proclamation that you haven't cheated somehow making you better than others (we have amazing FWS posters here!) on a marriage building forum is?
This forum is filled with people fighting for their marriages or in different stages of recovery for whatever reason and stick around to "pay it forward" and being tricked, manipulated or having digs thrown at them regarding infidelity is just plain mean. If you are familiar with Dr Harley's works, then you should know that just because a person has had an affair doesn't make them "bad" or you "better" because you haven't. We are ALL wired for affairs and need to take precautions to avoid one. All of us.
I'm in shock, over here.