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Re: How do you solve this
Prisca #2893049 01/23/17 08:10 PM
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There is something else going on with her that I am trying to figure out.
She is not in love with you. She also doesn't want to have sex the way you want.

She might consider it if she were in love with you. Fix that problem, first, then make a request. If she doesn't want to do it, then drop it.

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Re: How do you solve this
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Again I believe that the problem is not unmet emotional needs on her part. As she has stated that her emotional needs are met. (I am not assuming, I make those claims based on her words.)

And this is where I believe the problem lies. You don't spend enough time together to meet her needs. It takes 15 hours to maintain romantic love and 20-25 to create it. And that does not mean just being in the house together at the same time. it means going out on DATES and giving each other undivided attention.

I am sure she does tell you her needs are met, but doesn't understand the purpose of meeting needs is romantic love. Women who have fallen out of love almost always say their needs are met when they are checked out.

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