Yes MelodyLane, I've read SAA. I think I can stay calm. I'll try my best. Thanks for all your help.

We are here for you because we know how difficult what you are going through. Stay strategic and keep to your plan. You're doing great!

Thanks BrainHurts. That means a lot to me.

I have the workplace exposure letter saved to my drafts in my email. I can't sleep so I figured I'd get some things done.

WH came home last night and said he was too upset to talk to me and we would talk in the morning. In the morning he had to leave early to meet his dealer before work so no talking. He then said he would call when he got to work but didn't. When he finally called he was crying and said we would talk when he got home. When he got home he was on the phone to his brother within 15 minutes and went to meet him at a bar. He called me an hour later to say he was dropping some materials off to a job site and then he would be home to have dinner and talk. Close to two hours later I texted him that I was going to go ahead and eat (since it was 8:20). Finally he comes home at 9 pm and says we can talk after he drinks a few beers with his brother. In a calm and non-provoking tone I told him it was too bad us talking wasn't a priority. He said it is a priority but in my opinion his actions speak louder than words. This is beyond awful treatment in my opinion.

He also encouraged me earlier today to just spend the weekend out of town with my daughter. I'm glad I have the GPS installed and working and the PI following him tomorrow.

His behavior is so obvious and he is in so deep with the lies that he can't even recognize how hurtful and inconsiderate his behaviour has become.

You handled that perfectly. This is a terrible situation, but I want to assure you that you will feel much better once you have the evidence and expose it. Right now, you feel lost and hopeless. You won't feel that way very soon. Just hang in there, and keep us updated so we can support you.

Thanks MelodyLane, I really appreciate it.

He was just alluding to divorce. I know he's confused and addicted to the affair. It's so sad to watch. He just keeps crying. Hopefully this will be over after tomorrow and when I have the evidence he will have to face reality. This is worse than watching someone go through withdrawals from drugs.

One quick question please. Tomorrow when I get word from the PI that he has evidence for me do I do the exposure first before letting my WH know that I know?

Yes, I would get the evidence in hand and then expose the affair. You will want to do it somewhere that you won't be disturbed and can complete all your exposures. Are you prepared to do this? Do you have a place you can go? Do you have your target list ready? Prioritized? Do you have your letters written?

Your husband can find out you know from others. That is the best way because it will catch him off guard.

I would put the OW's H and her family and friends at the top of your list. Do you have the contacts from her facebook friend list? For example, I would do it in this order:

1. OW's husband
2. her parents
3. her family and key friends
4. the employer
5. your husbands close family and friends
6. your family and friends
7. your children

Thanks MelodyLane. That helps a lot.

Hang in there. You are doing well.

Have You heard from the PI?

Yes. WH and the OW are most likely together at my house as I type this. I still don't know how solid my evidence is by MB standards but the PI followed my husband until my husband caught on to someone following him and the PI backed off. The OW's car has been parked at a grocery store near my house for over three hours now and she lives 30 miles away so I'm pretty sure she isn't shopping.The PI is parked near her car to see if my husband drops her off. He has photographed her car in the parking lot. It's enough evidence for me. I also have the VAR in my bedroom closet in a coat pocket.

can you go home and catch them?

Is your husbands car at your house right now?

Yes, according to the GPS.

Yes, can you do this? Is there someone you can take with you?

No, unfortunately I can't go home tonight. I'm a two hour drive away and exhausted from being up since 3 am. I'm just going to have to be satisfied with the GPS data, the photo of her car with the license plate visible at the store by my home and the report I get Monday from the PI. Hopefully I captured some good audio on the VAR as well. Thanks MelodyLane and SusieQ.