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Her neglect created the space for me to start talking to other women about our relationship. This is on her... No it isn't. That happens to lots of people. Sometimes it is avoidable (intentional neglect), sometimes it isn't (disability or illness), but either way, you promised in your wedding vows to FORSAKE ALL OTHERS. Lots of people keep that vow even when they are neglected.
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I've clearly not communicated the nuance of where her lack of trust is applied. If you want your wife to trust you, it is a feeling that you can create. If she doesn't trust you, that's on you.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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the intimacy wasnt what I wanted.. I wanted to feel wanted. I still want that. Its what we all want. I do have the expectation to be wanted in my relationship. That will never change. In order to be wanted, you must behave in a way that is desirable. YOU DON'T. She doesn't desire you because you are not desirable. If you want to be desired, you must behave in a way that she finds desirable. I have plenty of female friends.. she knows most of them and has never had an issue and I've never done anything with any of them. I'm not the type of guy that sits on the couch and watches sports. I dont even have cable or watch TV. So to completely reject all friends like some suggest here is pretty close minded and singularly focused. The notion of cutting off every female friend I've cultivated because someone said so is crazy. I see not talking to this one woman... sure. I hardly talk to her anyway. You got kicked out of your house because she - rightly - has issues with your female "friends." So if you want to get your wife back you are going to have smarten up and change your strategy. If you don't see that, then I would suggest that you are crazy.
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She is super wise. Best decision she's ever made I'm sure! XO I AGREE.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'll check out some of your posts and see if I glean anything of value. Thank you. Sorry for internet hugging and kissing your wife :-D Do you really have 8 kids? Crazy town.
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Sorry for internet hugging and kissing your wife :-D In what universe is it polite to say that and smile about it? Do you really have 8 kids? Crazy town. In what universe is it polite to say that?
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Sorry for internet hugging and kissing your wife :-D In what universe is it polite to say that and smile about it? Do you really have 8 kids? Crazy town. In what universe is it polite to say that? You people are way too up tight. Let me guess you're all super religious
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Dude, I'm a married woman. You are disgusting.
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Flirting is not allowed on these boards. You will maintain proper boundaries with members of the opposite sex, or you will lose your posting privileges.
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What if I flirt with members of the same sex? What if my transgender hermaphrodite alter ego gets confused?
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What if I flirt with members of the same sex? What if my transgender hermaphrodite alter ego gets confused? Then you should stop.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Wow...I really need help.....and this guy is using the wise words of MelodyLane and Markos, et al, and waving a smug finger in the face of it.
I am sorry...I had to say it. I hope someone can break through to you Caddidle, because your sense of entitlement and inability to accept your role in this is mind boggling.
You have had an affair. One thing I have learned...taking/chatting with the opposite sex is an affair. if it is done clandestinely and not in the presence of your wife...it is an affair. Female freinds can be involved in your marriage...but only if in social settings where they are part of a group where you and your wife are enjoying UA time and it is part of the policy of joint agreement. Once that goes outside that...she has every right to be pissed.
You need to get outside of yourself and see things from her side....if she is not in love right now their is a reason. Use this to find that....or let them help ME who cares.
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What if I flirt with members of the same sex? What if my transgender hermaphrodite alter ego gets confused? Then you should stop. We've gotten off topic. Please continue to tell me how [censored] I am and why my wife should leave me.
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Did you have a serious question about the Marriage Builders program? This thread is quickly becoming a needless distraction on our forum and unless I see that you are serious about getting help, we will lock this thread.
What is your question about Marriage Builders for the posters?
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What if I flirt with members of the same sex? What if my transgender hermaphrodite alter ego gets confused? Then you should stop. We've gotten off topic. Please continue to tell me how [censored] I am and why my wife should leave me. We are locking the thread.
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