Almost nine years ago at the 41-year mark of our marriage, my husband and I could have easily become just another divorce statistic. Instead, he begged forgiveness and pledged his love and support for the remainder of our lives. Devastated, I sought guidance from the Harleys and from the MB Forum. Most advice I took, and some I chose to tweak a bit; but I decided that I wanted the "happily ever after" and that I would work with my repentant spouse to get through the bad times, as we had pledged to do in our wedding vows. On June 3, we celebrated our Golden Wedding Anniversary with friends and family. Recovery is hard work, but anything worth having is not easily achieved. We are happy and enjoying our lives.

GY,

It is so wonderful to see your post and know that you are doing well.

Congratulations on the Golden Wedding Anniversary! So glad that you are happy.

We are doing well and will have our 35th wedding anniversary June 26th.

Fondly,
AM

GY,

Congratulations. You & I went through this around a similar time (2009-ish), and I remember reading your threads and enjoying the wisdom shared.

Glad for your recovery. Keep up the good work!

Army Mama,
My husband and I have continued to live out the life we had both envisioned prior to his indiscretion. Wow! I've moved quite a distance in the eleven years since discovery. The MB forum really never enters my mind until this time of year, when I am reminded of the people on here, with you being primary, who helped me through such a terrible time.

I hope that you and your husband are doing well!

Golden Years

Doormat No More,

Your touching base with me two years ago was very touching. As I told Army Mama in the above reply, we are continuing to do well. I hope you are living life fully!

GY

No idea why I ended up here this evening. It's not any kind of trigger date. There's nothing that made me think of H's affair so many years ago. We are doing well and will celebrate 41st anniversary in June. Hope you are well GY!

Hi armymama! So nice to see you! Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary!

Hey, BrainHurts. I remember you. Thanks for the greeting. We are heading out on a couple of cruises this summer, It's great to get out and about after the years of covid. Hope all is well with you also!

So nice to see you back! Yes so nice to get out after COVID. Hope all is well with you!

I'm not sure who still appears here once in a while that might remember me. Shortly after our trips in 2023, we sold one of our places and moved full time to FL. A few weeks later, my daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer. I thought that our real reason for selling our NY place was to be close to her. Then, four months later, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. There was plenty of discussion about a treatment plan for me, etc. Finally, my oncologist said that if I was his mom this is what we would do. And I said fine, let's do that. This made 2024 a pretty rough year. H took the BEST care of me. He did everything, drove me to appointments, did the shopping, the cleaning, helped me after the 22 weeks of chemo, then a double mastectomy and 16 rounds of radiation. Sometimes, I think about what would have happened if we had packed it in 17 years ago. Those first couple of years were really tough. But now, we enjoy each other's company. We are live pretty close to our three kids and their families. We go to church together and sing in the choir and H's favorite song is "It's Well with My Soul". I don't think we would have gotten anywhere without Marriage Builders. Forever grateful!