Should I check his messages and verify who he's seeing now?<BR>Does it really matter, when I know in my heart that he is being unfaithful?

IMHO you should do so just enough to have the concrete proof you need to know who, length of time, level of intimacy. If there are more the one OW, you probably need to know how many and who they are.<P>There will be more info that you may want but think carefully of what you want to live in your head forever. The details tend to play as haughting, never-ending videos in our minds. I fight the show daily... after 11 weeks it's getting better but it's still there.. like a whisper now but ever present. Recovery is a roller coaster so tomorrow it might be up full blast.<P>Beyond this, please do not torture yourself with details. Believe me, I think that most of the people here will advise you to not ask questions or look for stuff that will rip your heart out.. it is too hard to erase it from your mind.. What I mean is that you do not need to know who many times they did what in what position. And if he or an OW starts to tell you this stuff.. do not listen.<P>The purpose of you finding information is to preserve your own sanity and to determine what is going on in your life. Nothing more and nothing less.<P>This is of course only my humble opinion.<P>Z<P><P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare