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Well:< Had no choice but to plan B it. I am so prepared I can't beleive it. The only thing is WS, who has been living with OW since he left in Nov. is calling me and telling me everything is going to be ok. 11 weeks since D-day and I have had it. His x-bestfriend called him today telling him to quit lying to me and let me be. WS called and again tells me he will be comming home. (could his fog be lifting?)<P>Planned a vacation to Spain with the children, we leave in 1 wk and will be gone for 3. This is where I can control wether he speaks to me or not. Hope that while we are gone he will realize just how much we really do mean to him.<P>The only good thing that has come from his A for me, is I know I'm not dumb, I am beautiful, people like me and I can survive without him.
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Do u have called ID? You can put a block on your phone so that it does NOT ACCEPT PRIVATE CALLS. So that way with Caller ID, u know who is calling and u don't have to answer.
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<BR>Hi Lostinny:<P>Honey, he's trying to reel you back in...you've wander away from his little game too far he thinks. It's amazing how having two people fighting over you gives some WS a sense of onipotence....they actually think they can keep all the things they are juggling in the air.<P>Thank goodness you'll have this trip to Spain to give you a little separation. I always consider it good sign that WS tries to maintain contact during Plan B...it shows that they still care. But now's the time for him to realize that losing you means a heck of a lot more then losing OW would. I know "no contact" is hard but for the good of the marriage....it has to be done. <P>Have a nice time on vacation...you're probably needing it about now. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>Faye<BR>
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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by trying2_4give:<BR><B>Do u have called ID? You can put a block on your phone so that it does NOT ACCEPT PRIVATE CALLS. So that way with Caller ID, u know who is calling and u don't have to answer.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I do have caller ID. Got it after D-day. I was blocking calls that are blocked, but WS said that our phone card does not always work if I have the block on. I know when he is calling though, the problem is that he asks the children to ask me to speak to him. They do not know about the OW at all, they are only 3,7 and 9.
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by buffy:<P><BR>Thanks for your reply Buffy,<BR>I know he is lying. Wants me to think He is being truthful, swears up and down (don't they all). I tell him actions speak louder then words.<BR>I can't wait to leave. At least I will be so far away from him that I'll be able to really think about my future and that of my children.<BR>
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<B>the problem is that he asks the children to ask me to speak to him. </B><BR>Say to him, "please reread the letter I gave you" and leave it at that.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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