Ok i know this is a very odd question, for those of you healing and knowing your marriage will be intact fromthe A, what do you do about your wedding ringts? DO you stillwear the ones given in promise before the sin, or get new ones?/ My h and i are renewing our vows after we heal, we have talked about it, but i am torn about what to do with my rings. It was given as a promise broken, i think we should melt them down and make new rings from them, i do not want new rings, i want the old ones to be as different as our marriage is. Am i odd for wannting this.<BR>Maine

You are not odd at all. I think it's a wonderful idea. My H and I are talking about redoing our vows after we are in recovery for a year or two. I've thougth of a similar thing. My idea was to rework the old gold and stones but to add something new, to symbolize the new or rebirth.<P>Check with a jeweler and see if they will use the same gold. There can be an issue of reuse of gold if prongs, etc. have been soldered onto the ring shank. Basically, the solder will mix with the gold and make it "dirty". There is a method for cleaning the gold but you'd have to find the right person who was willing to do that. <P>Do your rings have stones set in them or are the sold bands? If they have stones, you could just have them reset into new bands. If they do not have stones, you could have a stone added to the band. Either solution would avoid the issue of the gold reuse.<P>Hope this helps<P>Z<P><BR><P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Hey Z, long time no post lol<BR> Our rings are matching both set with diamonds in the shape of a cross, with 2 other diamonds reprsenting each of us. They are very pretty. i will take them to a jewler and see what my options are, i want a representaion of the old and the new. Not all of the before the A time is a bust, and i can tell our after the A time will be amazing. I like the idea of adding a NEW stone to it though thanks for the advice.<BR>Maine

I've talked with my wife about this very thing.<P>We will be keeping our original rings, and getting new ones as well. <P>This to me means the following. The original intent, our dreams, our hopes at the time we got married. Those things still stand. We still want those things.<P>We now have new promises, new hopes, and desires as well. <P>So for me, when I look down, and I notice I have two rings, it serves as a promise of my new understanding. My desire for our hopes and dreams, and my desire to not change the past, but grow and learn in the future.<P>------------------<BR>[H] / Aeon Blue<P>My advice is my advice. Take the good, disgard the bad. Do whats right for you. Not because I said it worked for me.