Hmmm. Silly me listened to voice mail...what did I hear?<BR> OW:<BR>Oh, baby. I'm sorry about today. I just HATE the thought of you with someone else. It just breaks my heart. I sorry. I'm just so sorry. I'll handle it better, I promise.<P><BR>Okay out there. Let me hear a collective AHHHHHHH. Pooooor OW. Can't stand the thought of 'her' man with his wife on her birthday. <P>I really expected him to come home with some excuse as to why we shouldn't go. But he hugged me and kissed me and said hey, birthday girl. (No, no card or present...but hey, I knew not to go there )<P>I know, I know...don't get my hopes up. But don't you think it was a great 'present' for the OW to give me? Just to know there's a little trouble in paradise.<P>Oh, yeah...she even asked him to have a 'hot' cup of coffee for her when she got to work.....<P>I wonder how long it takes him to get tired of my 'honeydo' list and her 'honeydo' list. He's gotta be getting tired.<P>Thanks again for all who participated in my Birthday. That complete strangers would 'take care' of me in such a way...well God has a special place for all of you reserved.<P>You are all in my prayers.<P>Cali

Hmmm<P>("OW:<BR>Oh, baby. I'm sorry about today. I just HATE the thought of you with someone else. It just breaks my heart. I sorry. I'm just so sorry. I'll handle it better, I promise")<P>Interesting. It's a lot rolled into one statement. Guilt him with "I just hate the thought of you with someone else. It breaks my heart." Then make him feel like he's in control with "I'm sorry, i'll handle it better, I promise" Can't promise something you can't give.<P>This has sucker written on it. I fell for something like that easily in the fog. Twisty turning guilt, manipulation all rolled into one.<P>We all get tired of demands, tired of do this or that, it's hard to let go of things also.<P>Happy birthday Cali Hope your out having some fun for a change. Hope all is going well. Wishing you a happy birthday from your own state <P>Hang in there. <BR>------------------<BR>[H] / Aeon Blue<P>My advice is my advice. Take the good, disgard the bad. Do whats right for you. Not because I said it worked for me.<p>[This message has been edited by [H] (edited June 13, 2001).]

Very manipulative! And yes, I recognise similar things in e-mails the OW has sent to my WH too - it's like watching a fish take the bait, and at the moment I'm helpless to rescue him! Oh well, he'll learn....<P>Happy Birthday again Cali!<BR>hugs, Paint.

Just wanted to wish you a happy BD and say, you go girl!! That was a wonderful present both of them gave you.<P>Have a great rest of your birthday!

Hope your day was as special as can be despite the underlying circumstances between you and the hubby <P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B>

What's with this people and coffee??????? My h's ow also kept calling about coffee...is this a cafeine addiction or am I so old that I'm missing the code word? LOL<P>Cali I'm glad he didn't find an excuse not to go. <BR>ANd yes, manipulation is an old trick. However it is also a dangerous one, even "foggy" nobody likes to feel manipulated. That's what helped my h get really fed up, along with quite some LBs that she did by mistake ooops! <P>I'm so happy you had a good day. What with all the similarities I was almost expecting that your bday was as bad as my first one was. It's always great to be proved wrong in these cases <P>Hugs to ya<BR>Kat<BR><P>------------------<BR>"Each and everyone of us is deserving of a gentle thougth, a kind word and the gift of understanding"