Gave you the sunglasses smilely face, well because I thought you might be needing them. Hopefully you don't have a really nasty hangover. Grab some asprine or something. Sorry things aren't going that great for you right now. It's hard I know. I can't even imagine the pain you've endured thus far. Stay strong, stay focused, take care of yourself. <P>Figured I'd cut and paste my responce to you out of the other thread.<BR>---------------------<BR>Cali,<BR>I'm not positive but I'm pretty sure I also told my wife, that she could date other people as well. That I thought that might be a good idea for us to do that.<P>My logic on that? I feel bad, I feel guilty about what I'm doing, it then jusifys me "dating" someone else, if she is as well.<P>I also gave my friends and co-workers my permission to ask my wife out on a date. "As vile as that sounds" They never did anything like that. My friend did take my wife out one night, at my request, that she was feeling down, and I thought it would be good for her to get out and do something, didn't matter what it was. I knew he wasn't going to do anything, i've known him a long time. <P>Stay strong Cali <BR>Praying your husband see's the light.<P>------------------<BR>[H] / Aeon Blue<P>My advice is my advice. Take the good, disgard the bad. Do whats right for you. Not because I said it worked for me.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers, Hugs, and Strength from both of us. Things do and can get better. Keep hoping, learning, and growing. Take care of yourself.<P>[H] and Knewjie

You two are soooo great! Thanks so much!<P>Actually felt fine this morning . My H has always said you don't have much of a hangover if you drink tequila...so I stuck with margaritas and tequila shooters yesterday. More than I've had since my college days...<P>Went to middle son's promotion ceremony from preschool...he starts kindergarten next year.<P>Then it was my pleasure to chaperone the 8th grade trip to Disneyland. H and children came with me.<P>We just got back.<P>Thanks for your response. I need you guys to keep me in line . There's way too much temptation and my girlfriends aren't helping. Sometimes it seems that it would be so much easier just to say "Fine. Let's just end it." But I know as many problems as it would 'solve,' so many more would occur. <P>Cali

Disneyland! I give that place a thumbs up cheer. A place my wife and I always talked about going to with our own family. We don't have a family just yet, but well get there One step at a time.<P>So many of us want to reach the top of the stairs by just taking one step. Many many steps involved. Focus on the first step. Take it. Then the next, and so on. If you look at all the steps involved it can be overwhelming. You start becoming unsure you will ever get where you want to be.<P>Importance is not losing sight that there are many steps involved. Each one can be a struggle on its own.<P>(Friend) says:<BR>You should focus on one thing at a time... always moving toward a goal.<BR>(Friend) says:<BR>If you look at all of it, it can be overwhelming.<P>From my chat log with my friend <P>------------------<BR>Prayers, Hugs, and Strength from both of us. Things do and can get better. Keep hoping, learning, and growing. Take care of yourself.<P>[H] and Knewjie