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My cop friend and I were supposed to hang out after drill today but at drill he asked me if I could come to his house tonight. I said, I thought we were supposed to be hanging out today?" He said his daughter had called and wanted to spend the day with him so he was going to pick the kids up and play with them for a while and then have me come down to his house. I was ok with that and said I'd see him later. he said he would call me later around 9 or 10. Cool. I got online and started chatting with a old friend of mine I went to college with in '99. He was asking me what was my cell number. I said I didn't have one. He said then what's the number on MSN messenger for your mobile number. I said it was probably my old pager number. He said, then who answered the phone. I said Damn if I know, maybe they reassigned it. No sooner had I typed that out and sent it, I got bumped offline and my cop friend called me and asked me who I gave his number to and he was upset that a guy he didn't know called his house looking for me. I HONESTLY don't remember putting his number in as my mobile number because I don't even have a cell phone! I tried to explain it to him but I don't think he believed me. He also said that right after we got back from AT someone called his baby's momma house looking for him and she wouldn't give him the phone and said he had a number at home to call him. He said he believed it was me, even though they couldn't trace the call. IT WASN'T ME!!!! I felt sick because he was upset with me and now I feel like he doesn't trust me. He said that he would call me later and I said, "yeah right" He said,"I will" I said that didn't just mess everything up?" he said No. He said he was going to go get the kids and that he would call me back later. i said ok but I didn't sound convincing because I'm not convinced that he really will call back AND even if he does, I'm not sure I will feel like driving an hour to see him. I don't know if I should be upset that he thinks I called his baby's mom house when I didn't or if I should be passive and just go if he calls and try to make it all better. Either way, I have to see him tomorrow at drill.
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You told the truth. If he asks about it again you can tell him there is no reason for you to do something like that and that you have no desire to get all tangled up in that kind of mess.<BR>Don't worry about things you can not control.
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Sounds like you cop friend lives in a dramatic world. If you told him the truth, and he does not believe you, then it tells me something about him. That he is not trustworthy and therefore he does not believe anyone else is.<P>Don't know about this guy. I know you like him but?????<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare
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my mom told me not to sweat it, if he calls he calls, if not, act like I didn't even notice at drill tomorrow. I still feel sad. I was having such a good week. i don't know what possessed my friend from college to call today...we haven't spoken on the phone in at least a year---always we chat on the internet. I guess it's like what I said to Humblefish; whatever was meant to happen, good or bad, will. If it wasn't meant for a relationship to develope between us, then it won't happen. <P>(Yeah right, ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/rolleyes.gif) , I try to convince myself of that but I'm still sitting here wondering if and hoping he will call.) ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/frown.gif)
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