<BR>Hi. I am a television producer for a cable newsmagazine. I'm working on a story about infidelity in marriage. <P>For that story, I'm looking for a married couple that has survived infidelity, and is committed to staying married. Ideally, I'd like to talk to a couple that has experienced infidelity on both sides--ie, both the husband and wife have had an affair. But I'm also interested in hearing from couples that have faced just one partner's infidelity. <P>Can anyone help me in this very difficult search? Ultimately, my hope is to find a couple--both husband and wife-- who will sit down and talk about their experiences on camera. I'd like to locate a couple as quickly as possible.<P>The best way to reach me is via this email address (wagner_betsy@hotmail.com)<P>Thank you,<BR>Betsy Wagner<BR>#####

What's the focus of the article? To help others cope with infidelity and to give them hope, a documentary, or something else??<P>I think you should mention this website in the article.<P>Just curious...

I would be curious too for what reason are you doing the story??<P>Lot's of great stories of sucess and inspiration here.<P>Great site for encouragement and knowledge.

Concur with HBH.<P>If the documentary's purpose is to help couples in marital recovery, hurray for you. If that is the case, you will also want to talk to Steve and others at MB, their insights will help round out such a documentary.<P>If its purpose is sensationalistic journalism, or "hot topical" journalism, you can probably exclude just about anyone from this site. (As a side note, fighting editors about journalistic integrity is why I am no longer a practicing journalist).<P>STL

Hi Betsy - I'd be interested if my wife and I had already recovered, but since we haven't can I interest you in a story about alien abductions or moose brain worms?<P>WAT

HA!! OMG, I can't stop laughing. Thanks WAT.<P>I'd be interested in helping with the study on alien abduction and moose brain worms as well. Lots of good info for 'ya.

WAT:<P>No wonder I never got anywhere, I thought it was moose abductions and alien brain worms. See what I know?<P>Thanks for the insight,<BR>STL

WAT, WAT, WAT.....<BR>Can't you behave when we have company on our little site?<P>Hee, hee, Just kidding. I needed a laugh too.

Dave, you can always make me smile!!!!!

WAT< you are a NUTBALL HUGE funny little nutball. LMAO . I love to laugh thanks.<BR>Maine<P>------------------<BR>IN the words of BOB the BUILDER!!" WE can fix it, yes we can!!!"

Hi Ms. Wagner,<P>There have been requests in the past to do case studies on the experiences of the people here. This forum is a safe haven for many. <P>Please check with the administrator of this site: Steve Harley. You can reach him by looking up his number in the home or counseling sections at the top of this page. There is also a radio program that airs weekly (I believe). <P>I would like to add that this is a site that has provided great support for many (myself included). As you can see there is a shared spirit here which allows us to not only be able to cope with our individual problems but also bring back a piece of normality into our troubled lives. As a group, we laugh and cry together in support of each other. I would not like to see that support damaged in any way. <P>I believe that this is a good vehicle to help many and how it is brought to more people is definitely a challenge. Of all the sites about infidelity/marriage, I have found this on the most helpful. We have people here from many parts of the world on this site with a variety of beliefs and backgrounds. The interchange of ideas and perspective have given many of us a eye opening view of how this type of situation occurs and how to best handle it. <P>You request appears to be a noble one and I am not denying that. Just want to protect the safety of all here. <P>Thanks for listening. <P>L.

It appears that Ms. Wagner works for ABC, and the Discovery channel. She has made similar requests on other message boards in a variety of topics. It appears the Discovery show airs weekly if that is the one she is talking about.

Dear Ms. Wagner--I am probably not the only one here who would like to know if any of the postings in the forum will be quoted or used in any way for the program. I've received tremendous support from this site, but am alarmed at the thought that anything I've posted here will be used outside of this site, esp. in a television program. My identity and that of my H would be easily recognizable to those in our field because of the unique details of our problems and I am mortified at that possibility.<P>Does anyone know if MB allows quoting from the forum without consent of the posters?? I'm getting scared and thinking of erasing the content of my posts, which would be a shame at this point. Help, panicking...octavia99

I'm a panic-er too... I emailed the moderator for input, anyone who is concerned might want to do that too.

You laughed, but I made sure nobody would quote me!! <P>WAT

I am looking into this. In the meantime, please - NO ONE respond to Ms. Wagner directly - DO NOT give her ANY information. She is NOT welcome to solicit on this site without first going through the Marriage Builders office via one of the Harleys.<P>If she is a legitimate researcher for Discovery or ABC, she will understand the legal ramifications of quoting any of the posts on this forum. If she does not understand them, I am certain that the legal counsel of the Marriage Builders corporation will be happy to explain them to her.<P>------------------<BR><B>Tempest</B>, Moderator<BR>Marriage Builders Infidelity Forums:<BR><I>General Questions II, Just Found Out...,<BR>Plan A/Plan B, In Recovery</I> <BR><I>Pregnancy/Child</I> and <BR><I>Read-Only Posts</I>

Thank you Tempest! This site is such an important, valuable, life-saving resource...it's good to know those of us who post here will be protected. If there were to be an inquiry to quote a post...would the author of the post or reply be contacted and have the right to decline? Obviously, this site is open to anyone who logs on, but as it is a marriage building site, the vast majority of those who might be looking through posts are going through the same or similar struggles and it feels therefore "safe" to say certain things that one would not say to a reporter...Feeling free to express ourselves openly really does help in giving and receiving advice. Feel free to quote this part of my post to a reporter --hope there is sensitivity on the TV production end... Thanks again, octavia99

Hi. I posted the original request and I'm very sorry that it seems to have sparked such concern. I'd like to talk to the moderator. But I cannot find any contact information on the site. Can someone provide an email or number?<P>Please let me assure you that in posting the message yesterday, my intentions were very straightforward. As I explained, I am searching for a couple that has faced infidelity and is willing to talk publically about it. I have no intention of using anyone's story without their permission. So please know that I will NOT use any information from the postings on this site. I respect the privacy of this community and do not wish to violate it. <P>I hope this clears up my intentions. Please feel free to email me at wagner_betsy@hotmail.com. I'm happy to talk about any concerns,<BR>Betsy Wagner<BR>####

mediarequest:<P>I've been interviewed for a similar story a couple years ago. The folks that were doing those stories first contacted Steve Harley (sharley@marriagebuilders.com) to get permission. <P>I would suggest that you email Steve or call the MB office (888-639-1639) to talk with him directly.