I'm trying to figure out exactly what my WH is doing.<BR>It seems to me that he is trying to destroy what I feel for him at times.<BR>I will walk over to him and give him a hug and in return I get nothing most of the time.....sometimes he will grab my breasts and squeeze them....sometimes he will just put his hands on my hips.....rarely ever does he actually hug me back.<BR>I will walk over to him just to give him a kiss and he will purposefully try to avoid it and then laughs at me when I walk away in a huff. It's funny to him it seems when I get upset over him not returning anything I'm giving.<BR>He seems to do anything and everything posible to make me uncomfortable at times. Just silly things though......like when I go to sit on the couch he will put his legs out so there is barley enough room for me to sit there or putting his legs on me after I sit down...making it uncomfortable.<BR>It just seems that he gets a kick out of making me either feel stupid or just plain uncomfortable.....or actually hurting my feelings.<BR>He doesn't take me too seriously.<P>Can anyone tell me why he's doing this?<BR>I've told him countless times how I feel about it when he does these things.....but he keeps on doing it.

MP:<P>Hmm. Is he still in the fog? If so, he could be trying to get your goat enough so that you will throw him out. That way, in his befogged rationale, that would make you the bad guy and his affair justified.<P>If you are both actively working on recovery, then his behavior is inexcusable, for he is conciously violating the rules of protection and care. From your post(s), it seems he is not implementing the rule of honesty, either. All of these are major LB (as well you know).<P>In either case, his behavior is totally disrespectful of you, and something you need to take into account regarding Plan A/Plan B strategy.<P>Godspeed and good luck,<BR>STL