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I was 28 when A began, WH was 23 (yes, I can hear all the alarm bells go off) OW was about 36 I think, we had been married for 3 years and OW and H married for 19 years.<BR>Whats a 23yo doing getting into all that so early? If he ever gets out of it he'll be way ahead of the rest. I've heard men usually find themselves in their 30's and women in their 20's. I'm not surprised this has all happened though. The 3 year mark is when it starts getting tough and he bailed out without putting in the effort. If it never works out I'll be looking for someone else my own age, thats for sure.<P>Dancer
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Okay first time H was 32 (just) second time (now) H is 34 (just again) we have been married 6 years I was 29 almost 30 the first time and I was 31 turned 32 just after disclosure.<p>[This message has been edited by jendan69 (edited June 28, 2001).]
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My w was 32 for the 1st two A's and 42 for the next.
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My WH is 28, we have been married for 1 1/2 yrs.
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My husband and I are both 30....... he is the WS. This all started right before his 30th birthday....
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Judging the responses-if we can make it to our 50's with our spouses, then maybe we'll be OK!!LOL!!
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I have to say it again-<P>If we make it to our 50's we'll be OK or PROTECT OUR M WITH MB PRINCIPALS. I had to say that. Thanks!
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I am the Ws. I was 37 when it started...turned 38 a couple weeks after. I can't wait for this OM-free b'day in Sept. I don't want to be 39 but I plan to quit b'days for a decade ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/wink.gif) and I plan to devote the rest of my life to my faithful 44 yr old H!!!!
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FS:<P>That's the spirit!<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL
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My H had affair, he started at 49 and OW at 49. H is now 50 and OW is now 50. A is still going on over 1 year. Started in June 2000.
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My WS was 34 at the time. He is also quite a proponent of family values......go figure!
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BFBD:<P>He must be in a time warp (see ongoing discussion about the historical/religious views on affairs at <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/010066.html)." TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum37/HTML/010066.html).</A> <P>Godspeed and prayers,<BR>STL
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He had his affair when he was 36 (just after my 40th!) we had been together 6 years at the time. OW was 38.
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H was 35 and I was almost 41 at onset of his A.
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H was 50 when he had his first EA, 51 when his ( 2nd ) major EA/PA began. 2nd lasted about 18 months. We have been married 32 years this past May, I am 52, we have 4 children... We now are the proud owners of a red Mazda Miata convertible !!! Are we screaming MLC or what?<P>This is interesting info... what really scares me are all the very young adults/nearly newly weds caught up in this hellacious mess.<P>Cathy <P>[This message has been edited by Catplay (edited June 29, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by Catplay (edited June 29, 2001).]
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Catplay,<P>You're right in being concerned. Its not just a midlife crisis thing. It leaves me wondering why we don't have or seek many Titus 2 women to help us out - isn't that a vital mandate from God? We need to learn how to love our spouses and that means finding a mentor. I plead with my girls in youth group to find women to encourage them when they find a partner. I know they will do it as theyve seen my life crumble before their eyes. It could save so much bitterness and hurt.<P>Dancer
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