hmmm-<P>now keep in mind my previous posts and the 'fantasy/fogland' punctures I have been making...<P>today:<P>H found out his checking acct. is overdrawn--I usually keep track of this, but this month left it TOTALLY up to him.<P>H just found out that his contract with school district has not been renewed. Poor baby will not be working with OW next year...at the rate he's going, he's gonna be lucky to get a contract....<P>I predict summer showers with some fog dissapating....<P><BR>Cali<P>Can we spell t-r-a-i-n wreck? Also found out that [censored]'t dean of schools was on to their A.<p>[This message has been edited by StrongerInCali (edited June 27, 2001).]

You forgot to mention the tremors as he feels his life begin to shake apart....

cali - always be aware that a strong denial front can creep down from the north - and be held in place by a high rationalizing system. It's all pretty unpredictable.<P>WAT's weather

Cali,<P>I have been following your posts...your latest have made me roll.. What you have been doing the last 24 hours, I have been since d-day. The difference is my H is not in a "fog" that is why I dont post here much. I am the Queen of LBing...if he looks funny...I LB. poor guy. Anyway the reason I am posting to you is... you seem to be in the PERFECT situation for plan B (if I understand it correctly)... you H is overdrawn, his job possiblities are shaky, you have royally scared OW (HEE HEE). Maybe its time he moves out. He does not want to be married ..right? he does not want you to do or tell him anything, right? maybe he should just go be a big boy all by himself. A man who has baggage (W and kids) plus a insecure job, and checks bouncing...even OW may if she is dealing with his whinny self on a daily basis, may kick him out. esp if you are in Plan B. cuz now you are not talking to him, or bailing him out. it is just a thought. it is funny My H is the same, different in the job thing, But he cant do anything outside of work for himself he would just go in circles. tried to start a load of laundry (he is 45 with 2 advanced degrees) and needed my help. swear.....<P>Just a footnote...I know nothing of the plans, I just read alot here. and it seems to work... the plan B. <BR>My H did not have a relationship with the OW..just sex a couple of times. (I was the one that had him subjected to a lie detector test). He was so burned in that situation, that he is plan A'ing me.. like crazy..I love it. heck we all deserve it. ..Good Luck... PS I love Hurricaine Cali...you rule..esp when you called OW and told her, you had sex with you H that morning...do these OW really think that our H's dont have sex with us???? stupid OW and stupid H...they deserve one another...

HA! Cali you are too funny. Your H is DEFINATELY hitting rock bottom soon. Wow. I am glad you are in such high spirits lately.<P>I still remember slapping my H across the face when I found out he'd lied about kissing OW. I was SO mad. I didn't really LB other than that, but it felt SO good. <P>That was before MB and before I knew how seriously screwed up my H was and before I realized it wasn't about me, it was about him.<P>So, you go girl!! Good job. You LB'd for all of us. Feel like calling up my H's OW for me?? I'm sure you'll scare the sh*t out of her!

Maybe that's why I have done all this stuff...I am at the end of my rope.<P>Self-destruct. Kaboom.

Weather forecast:<BR>Thick fog lifting.<BR>Expect serious thunderstorm activity. Kaboom.

Cali...I would be doing worse and more. You have shown considerable restraint.<P>I hate that you are at the end of your rope when he is not at the end of his. That he thinks he still has options while you don't see many options for yourself but what he gives to you.<P>I would still, and especially after this last bit of news, make sure that I've got half the cash in a secure place & disappear for a few days...leaving him with the whole darn mess. He's so ready to leave you with it. <P>You hang in there. I've still got a couch. Of course, I chose to sleep on it last night, but ...

Weather update:<P>Hurricane Cali has been downgraded to a tropical depression. However, this is being offset by an MB high moving in across the board.<P>In other parts, reported tremors and a stiffening breeze might shake loose the fog that has settled in over WH.<P>News at 6, film at 11.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL

cali,<P>Ok, I'm really going to be serious now. Right now I think you are in a place I would give, oh hell, I'd give anything to be in. The purpose of Plan b for you is to rebuild you and your family, but for him, it's to feel the consequences of his actions, *without you being the cause, but a place of safety.*<P>I think that if you can stop your spree at this point, and in any dealings with him be Plan A or Plan B not LB, you may find him finding his way back to you sooner rather than later. Just a guess.<P>Ishy

Cali:<P>What Ish came out and said directly, is what I have been hinting at.<P>Plan B. Protect yourself and your child. Make WH feel the consequences of his actions. He doesn't want you "telling" him what to do? OK, he can move on and be self-determinant.<P>I concur with Ish ... he will be back sooner, I think, than later. But, now that Mt. Vesuvius has erupted, keep future ones in check. Please?<P>Thoughts and prayers with you,<BR>Godspeed,<BR>STL<p>[This message has been edited by SeenTheLight (edited June 27, 2001).]

You guys are soooo baaaaaaaaaad! LMAO!!!!!!<P>Cali,<P>I know you're hurt Hon, most of us have been there, but are you sure this is what you want to do???<P>lv,<BR>Jo<P>------------------<BR>"Remain flexible like a reed, as opposed to an oak which can snap in the wind"<p>[This message has been edited by Resilient (edited June 27, 2001).]