Our little community, takes care of one another. Where else in the world can you find so many people caring for one another?<P>I wanted to comment and express gratitude <B>for</B> each of us <B>to</B> each of us. So reach up and pat yourself on the back for doing a damn good job of taking care of one another.<P>Good news comes and bad news flourishes.. and we all jump on the bus <I>(okay old timers.. no bus postings, hehe)</I> and help those who are currently in need. We protect one another when an outsider comes in to attack and destroy what we are and represent. (And I'll try to be nicer in the future, promise)<P>The open arms to those who are the WS, who truly come and offer their perspective, are always welcome. It takes special people to welcome WS into this group.. especially after our spouses betrayed us in the same manner. Although there may be underlying resentment to all the WS... I want all the WS to know that we appreciate your efforts in comforting us and helping us see where we failed and what we need to do to win our WS back.<P>At times there is constructive criticism that is often harsh and to the point.. Remember that we are all dealing with emotional people all the time while visiting here.. and although things have been quiet and loving... we need to remember that.<P>A few suggestions...<P>1. If you have a moment to scan the first few pages, not by topic or by author... but rather by replies.. look for those posts that only have 0 - 4 posts and open it up and see reply to it regardless if you can help or not. Tell the author that you read their post.. you may not be able to offer advice.. but in you responding, help is on the way. It puts their post back at the top, for the rest of us to reply and try to help. It also acknowledges that someone cares about their problem.. and they will stay here at MB and receive what each and everyone of us has... help from friends. <P>2. Clicks.. Yes we even have small clicks with our overall group. Not a bad thing.. but some get left out. Sit up and take notice of those who are quiet in their postings.. and call them out of their quietness and post what they are feeling. There are MANY lurkers here that are to afraid to speak out and we need to get them out of the rafters. It sucks to go this alone.<P>3. Keep in mind that posting many smaller threads breaks the group up into not knowing your whole story.. Godlyman has kept alot of his posts in one general post about his situation and its easier to follow his situation that way. Only a thought.. but a lot to read.. (look who's talking).<P>4. Keep a list of general topic posts that can be brought to the top quickley... some new posters may not stay if they feel that there is no advice for them here and now. A few General Posts I made recently I posted with a title such as "DOMESTIC VIOLENCE - EVERYONE". That post as well as many others can be easily seperated out in a search based on the term EVERYONE, so it can be brought to the top immediatley. Some new posters may not have the time and patience to wait for hours for a reply.. and we lose them.<P>6. If a topic is going to involve, 'adult' content.. it should probably be marked as such, as some of our children most likely visit here without us knowing... and there are those individuals who might be offended by a post if it discusses things that they feel uncomfortable with.<P>7. Remember that none of us are marriage counselors, and even if we were.. we couldn't offer the BEST advice, due to our ongoing situations.. and each of us needs to remember that. What will work for on person WON'T work for everyone and we just need to remember that, and pass that on.. when we post our opinions.<P>8. Remember and don't forget that there are always more than just a Husband, a Wife and the OP here... there is family, friends, people who we work with, and children that can all be affected by our responses to others posts and situations. <P>Thats about it for my suggestions.. so do as you wish... help improve or debate what I've discussed.. if the majority thinks it worthy of implementing and practicing..<P>Finally,<P>Thank you for listening.. thank you for helping and reaching out to one another. Thank you for being here for me, as always.<P>So SHOOT me already. <P>------------------<BR>Husband2You<BR>*****<BR>Don't make me promises <BR>Baby you never did know how to keep them well <BR>I've had the rest of you <BR>Now I want the best of you <BR>It's time for show and tell<P>'All or Nothing' © 2001 O-Town

H2Y:<P>Great post! Thanks!<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL

Thanks for some very positive ideas here. <P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Hi,<P>This is a very helpful reminder. There used to be more of these when I first can and even when I researched in the past years. <P>Like the plan a and plan b threads from NSR, I think these need to be brought up periodically because there is a new crop of posters and often the same subjects are brought up. <P>Thank you for this writeup. I am going to put it in my file for future reference. I have noticed the absence of some of the old timers already and feel it as a loss but I am trying to respect and understand their wishes. But their presence and sense of value still remains. <P>I appreciate this reminder. <P>Mahalo,<BR>L. <BR>

Thank you H2Y! You read my mind - I felt a message like this was needed - thank for taking the initiative!!!!<P>I have one more to add:<P>9. Check the Plan A/Plan B and Just Found Out forums occasionally. I have found a few new ones over there crying out for some help/guidance, and traffic is slow there. <P>Thanks!<P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

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