My birthday is today. I'm going out to dinner with my mom, sister and sister-in-law, as the men are fishing at the coast. H acted miffed at first because I had made plans with them, but we went out last night.<P>He made reservations at a nice little cafe. Food was wonderful. While he didn't give me a "romantic" card to a wife, it was a sweet card signed Love,___. Get this-- the man has never bought me a birthday gift or always said go pick something out. He gave me the card and a bag with de-icer for my windshield and a new dog leash. I thought to myself "some things never change". Then... he pulled out a box with a beautiful bracelet. First time since we've been married he's given me jewelry. <P>Either he's starting to care again or the move this week-end and recent argument with son is giving him a guilt complex -- probably both. <P>While at dinner he talked quite a bit about how his friends had all gone their own way over the years, best friend's death, etc. He said he felt like he was out in the middle of the ocean trying to find his way.<BR>Thinks everyone is against him and thinks he is running away by this move. He told me the move wouldn't change his feelings for me and we were just a phone call, few hours drive away from each other. I only wish I knew what he is feeling about us. He says he doesn't know.<P><BR> <p>[This message has been edited by Janie (edited November 10, 1999).]

Janie-I was diagnosed depressed. I can sypathize for his feeling of being in an ocean, I literally thought about suicide. I took the meds for awhile but they changed me, I wanted to be accepted for who I was, I wanted to be loved no matter how mean or nasty I was, but yet I felt unworthy of the whole idea of someone loving me. It is a confusing time period with confusing signals being sent.<BR>The fact that your at this site tells me you want to build your relationship back up, not bust it up. So, I would say that it is a hard road. You probably love your H and think he's worthy, You need to keep showing him this and keep to the plan your on. But continue to believe in him, he needs it now more than ever! God Bless<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

Hey, Janie: Jewellery, eh? Sounds promising. Glad to hear that things are going better for you, as you deserve only the best out of life.<P>I think that if you give your H space, he will realize what a wonderful woman he ALMOST lost. <P>Sorry I haven't gotten back to you lately, but mom is in a cast from the top of her leg, to her ankle. She took a fall last Saturday, and is having trouble getting around. She is coming over this evening to stay with us for six weeks. Now, THAT should be a real test of our marriage. Ha! Ha! My mother can be trying at the best of times. I'm kind of looking forward to it, as it is very similar to the situation with dad staying here, BUT, this time I will have an opportunity to change the outcome. Wink! Wink! I'm hoping this will help alleviate the pain I still feel about the situation with dad/sisters.<P>So, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, girl! When you blow out the candles on your cake, I'll be right there with you, making the same wish that you are. <P>(((((((((HAPPY BIRTHDAY, JANIE)))))))))))))<BR>Hey, when are you going to send me an e.mail?<P>Keep your chin up,<BR>Sandy<P>------------------<BR><BR>SUCCESS STORY<P>

Happy Birthday wishes....<P>{{{{{{{{{Janie}}}}}}}}}<P>I don't know all of your story... but everyone deserves a good birthday... <P>Jim<BR>

Happy Birthday, Janie.<P>The bracelet sounds lovely and you know, you've got to like the de-icer as well. He's trying to take care of you.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Do not get tired of doing what is right, for after awhile you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not get discouraged and give up. (Gal 6:9)<P>

Happy Birthday. De-icer maybe he wants to di-ice the situation. Anyway have fun with your mom, sis, and sis-in-law.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>